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How To Tell Your Family You Are Considering Adoption and Get Their Support

If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy, you may be thinking about adoption. Adoption is a positive, loving choice, but it is also an emotional journey. There are many ups and downs, and you will want as much support during this challenging time as possible. One thing that can add to the stress of an unplanned pregnancy is sharing the news with loved ones. You may be wondering how to tell your family that you are pregnant. You may be overwhelmed at the idea of sharing this news in addition to the possibility of adoption.

It is normal to have these feelings. Many expectant mothers have walked in your shoes. In fact, nearly 50 percent of all pregnancies in the U.S. are unplanned each year, and around one-third of all pregnant people consider adoption as an option.

As you consider your pregnancy options and explore adoption, you may also want advice on how to tell your family that you are pregnant. Read on. In this short guide, we will share advice on how to break the news with your loved ones, and how to get the support you need, as well.

Breaking the News on Your Terms

Sharing the news of your pregnancy can be difficult. Whether you are a teenager or in your late 30s, an unplanned pregnancy is a shock. It is life-changing and can rock your entire world. Depending on who is in your inner circle, it can be even harder to disclose this information.

If you feel that your family may listen to you with an open mind, it is best to be straightforward and honest. Share your pregnancy news and then explain, confidently, that you have a plan. Making an adoption plan for your child is a brave, loving, responsible choice. You are taking control of the situation now and ensuring that your child has a happy life. Adopted children grow up in safe, stable, and healthy homes. They are often sung to and told stories every night with a home full of love and opportunity. Making an adoption plan is also beneficial for you, the birth parent, as you can go on to work toward your personal and professional goals. Sharing these benefits may help your loved ones understand that you are making the right decision.

If you feel nervous about sharing your pregnancy news and adoption plans with your loved ones, rest assured that there are support groups to help. Your adoption agency can also help. It can be overwhelming to consider how to tell your family that you are pregnant. While adoption is a positive choice, the news can be a lot for loved ones to absorb. Having professional guidance can help. If you feel that you might be in danger when you share the news, it is wise to contact someone who can make sure you are safe. Adoptions With Love can send a counselor to your home, and even get law enforcement involved, if needed.

You may be in an unsafe living environment and worried that the news of your pregnancy will trigger your abuser. You may fear being kicked out of your home. Whatever the circumstances, you should not have to face mistreatment of any kind. Facing an unplanned pregnancy is hard enough. You should be surrounded by people who love you and will support you throughout it all.

Finding More Support

At Adoptions With Love, expectant/birth mothers who choose adoption get a wide array of free supportive services, such as:

  • Housing, such as a deposit and several months of rent.
  • Other living expenses, such as utilities, phone bills, even maternity clothes.
  • Medical support. We can help you find a midwife or doctor with whom you feel comfortable and cover any uninsured medical expenses that relate to the pregnancy and birth.
  • Legal services. We provide expectant/birth mothers with access to free adoption attorney services, to ensure the adoption is carried out safely and legally.
  • Comprehensive counseling, before and after the adoption is complete.
  • Continued connection post-adoption. We can help you design an adoption plan that meets your needs and can act as a liaison between you and the adoptive family, as needed.

In addition to these free supportive services from your adoption agency, you can also find support online. There are plenty of forums and Facebook groups to join, wherein you can connect with other expectant/birth mothers. There are also in-person community groups that can assist you, as well.

Learn More About Adoption

If you would like to learn even more about how to tell your family that you are pregnant, and receive assistance sharing the news, contact Adoptions With Love today. We can help guide you through the adoption journey and help you discuss your adoption plans with your loved ones. Call us any time of day, any day of the week, at 800-722-7731, 617-777-0072, or contact us online.