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How to Place Your Baby for Adoption In Virginia

Placing your baby for adoption is a big decision. If you live in Virginia and are facing an unplanned pregnancy, you have come to the right place. Adoptions With Love is a licensed, non-profit adoption agency that helps expectant/birth mothers make positive and informed decisions for their babies. Whether you have just learned of your pregnancy, are in your third trimester, or have already given birth, we are here to support you.

For the past 34 years, Adoptions With Love has been helping women in Virginia find the best possible home for their babies. We have long-standing partnerships with some of the best adoption professionals in your state. If you are considering placing your baby for adoption in Virginia, you can trust that we are here to help. Our reliable Virginia adoption team can help you explore your options, explain local adoption laws and design an adoption plan with which you feel comfortable.

This short guide outlines the steps you can take, should you decide to place your baby for adoption in Virginia.

  • Find an Adoption Agency You Can Trust

As you consider adoption, your first step will be to choose the right adoption agency to guide you through this unexpected journey. There are several types of Virginia adoption professionals that you can work with, but it is important to find one that you can really trust. Look for an adoption agency that is licensed and experienced in Virginia adoptions. Do not hesitate to ask questions as you explore potential agencies. You will want to find an adoption agency with a team of compassionate, unbiased social workers who are willing to go over all your options. They should listen to your wishes, respect whatever choice you make, and support you as you navigate this life-changing experience. 

  • Meet with an Adoption Counselor

Once you have found a trustworthy adoption agency in Virginia, you can begin to meet with a licensed, adoption social worker. This person is your confidant – any conversions with your social worker will be kept confidential. You can always ask questions, talk about your feelings, and lean on her to guide you through the adoption process. Together, you can discuss your hopes, fears, and wishes, before working to create the best possible adoption plan for your child.

At Adoptions With Love, we understand how important this moment is in the adoption journey. Your social worker will give you the chance (and plenty of time) to consider all of your options, learn about your rights as a birth mother in Virginia, and understand what you can expect before and after the adoption.

  • Understand the Adoptions Laws in Virginia

Adoption laws vary by state. In Virginia, no birth mother can sign legal adoption forms until at least three days after the baby is born. This gives you time to rest, think about your decision, and spend some time with your baby (if you would like) before signing the legal adoption papers..

Because adoption laws vary by state, it is important to work with an experienced adoption agency that has a team of attorneys who specialize Virginia adoptions. Adoption laws can be quite complex and can change , so it is important to have access to lawyers who keep up with and understand the ins-and-outs of these policies. Adoptions With Love works with knowledgeable and compassionate adoption attorneys in Virginia who can discuss your rights and answer any questions you may have. They can also meet you wherever you are, to make the whole process easier for you.

All  the legal services with Adoptions With Love are completely free to expectant/birth mothers. We can also help you with other pregnancy-related expenses and services, such as:

  • Maternity clothes
  • Finding medical care
  • Several months of rent and utilities
  • Money for groceries
  • Transportation
  • Counseling services, before and after the adoption
  • Finding a family for your baby
  • Open adoption arrangements

 

  • Find the Family

As an expectant/birth mother, you can  choose the adoptive family for your baby. This brings many women peace of mind as they make an adoption plan.  Most expectant/birthmothers report that once they find the right family they feel a sense of relief and calm.

If you work with Adoptions With Love, you will be given profiles of different hopeful families who can offer a safe, stable, and loving home for your baby. We understand how difficult this decision will  be, and we understand the choosing the perfect family for your child is something that can feel overwhelming at times. Before you dive into this family albums, we will be sure to discuss your wishes and dreams for your child. If you feel strongly about your child being raised in a two-parent household, for example, we can find the families that can best accommodate this expectation. Once we have an idea of the type of family you are searching for, we can send you detailed photo albums and packets of information so you can learn more about these prospective parents. Once you have found the family (or families) that you like, you may speak with them over the phone, email, or even in person.

No matter who you choose as your child’s adoptive family, you can rest assured that your child will be placed in a caring and secure home. At Adoptions With Love, all prospective adoptive families are thoroughly screened through a series of background checks, home visits, and in-person interviews. We personally get to know our adoptive families to ensure they are fully ready to raise a child.

  • Make a Post-Adoption Plan

Adoption is and emotional and difficult journey  and it is  also be the start of something wonderful. Thanks to the changing times, adoption is no longer something to hide. It is a very positive, selfless, and loving choice for women who are not able to raise a baby at this time. Adoption does not mean goodbye forever. Through open adoption, you can stay in touch with your child’s family as he or she grows.

As an open adoption agency, all of the prospective families at Adoptions With Love agree to having at least a semi-open adoption. Open adoption means that you have some form of contact with your child and/or child’s adoptive family. This form and frequency of communication may be determined by you and agreed upon by the adoptive family. It could mean occasional email updates, phone conversations, mailed letters and pictures, and  in-person reunions.

The choice to make an open adoption plan is entirely yours to make. Most (about 95% of) adoptions today are open. Some expectant/birth mothers, however, choose to make a closed adoption. This is okay, too. Adoptions With Love makes binding contracts outlining contact between birth and adoptive parents, but the terms of the open adoption may evolve over the years to accommodate a growing child. Should you decide to make a closed adoption, Adoptions With Love continues to keep photos and letters on file, should you change your mind down the road.  You also have the option of opening up communication when you are ready.

Whether you choose to make an open, semi-open, or closed adoption plan, we encourage you to continue free counseling services after your baby is placed for  adoption. . Adoption is, after all, a life-changing journey. Whether you decide to parent your child or lovingly place him with an adoptive family, you are forever a mother. Adoptions With Love has years of experience working with birth mothers who experience the joy, grief, and other emotional battles throughout this journey. Our caring staff will be here for you long after the dust has settled. We will always be here for you, no matter the time of day.

If you would like to learn more about making an adoption plan in Virginia, reach out to us today. It is never too late to make an adoption plan. Call Adoptions With Love at 1-800-722-7731 or text us confidentially at 617-777-0072 for more information on adoption in Virginia.