What Does Open Adoption Mean?
Open adoption means there is open communication between birth and adoptive families, both before and after the adoption is finalized. That arrangement can look different for everyone, depending on their needs and comfort level. At Adoptions With Love, expectant/birth mothers have the power to design the type of adoption plan that works best for them.
For many expectant/birth moms, open adoption involves:
- Selecting the adoptive family for their baby
- Communicating directly with the adoptive family, and – if desired – meeting them prior to baby’s arrival
- Maintaining a relationship with the baby’s adoptive family throughout the years
In choosing an open adoption, you are also opening the door to many other positive decisions. Many expectant/birth mothers who have established a relationship with their child’s adoptive parents also choose to include them in the baby’s big arrival. You may wish to allow them in the delivery room at the hospital or birthing center. Of course, this will depend on your comfort level and you may base this decision on how close a bond you have formed with them. You can decide whether you want time alone with the baby, or if you would like the adoptive parents to be there with you. Every detail may be planned ahead of baby’s birth. If you are making your adoption plan from your hospital bed, or you are making arrangements after baby’s birth, that is okay, too. It is never too late to make an adoption plan.
In making an open adoption plan, you can decide on the type of communication you would like to have. Remember, this is YOUR adoption plan. You may choose to connect with the family via FaceTime or Skype, text messages, or email. There are also more traditional ways of communicating with your child’s adoptive family, such as snail mail, phone calls, or in-person visits. Ask yourself what you feel most comfortable with, and what will be best for your baby at this time.
Open adoption is not right for everyone. If you decide you are more comfortable with a closed adoption plan – in which no identifying information is revealed – this is okay, too. You can always open your adoption down the road if you wish. As an open adoption agency serving Wyoming, every hopeful adoptive family at Adoptions With Love agrees to having at least a semi-open adoption plan.
At Adoptions With Love, your adoption counselor can help you negotiate the type of adoption plan you want. Open adoption agreements are written with room for change throughout your child’s upbringing.