How to Choose a Family – Considerations (Finances, Education and Environment)

This is part 2 in our recent series on the things to consider when choosing a family for your baby.  For part one on Family, Faith and Ethnicity click here.

As an expectant mother today, you have a say in how your plan will go. As you may have read in our most recent guide, How to Choose an Adoptive Family, part of this plan can involve finding a loving, secure home for your child. Many expectant parents find great comfort in making this brave decision. It reduces the anxiety or doubts one may have about adoption. As an expectant/birth mother, you have the opportunity to give your child the perfect family. You can feel confident in your choice, and your child will be grateful that you made such a compassionate decision for his or her future.

Adoption is largely about trust. We want you to trust in yourself to make this decision, and to trust whichever family you choose for your baby. Our team at Adoptions With Love encourages you to speak openly about what you desire in an adoptive family. We will help you create a list of wishes, priorities, and qualities you would like your baby’s family to possess. We will then help you sort through them to determine what is most important to you.

Adoptions With Love works with all types of prospective families. As you consider each one carefully, take into account what type of relationship and communication you want in the future with your child’s family.  Do you want to meet them prior to the baby’s birth? Do you want to maintain communication with them over the years?  Do you want to meet with them on a regular basis?  You can do this via email, texting, Skype, phone calls, or our letter and picture program. Open adoption provides many options for you and your relationship with an adoptive family.

You also have the option of choosing a family with a specific type of environment. For instance, you may want your child to be raised in a safe, close-knit neighborhood community. You may want them to live in a rural area surrounded by nature and room to play or in a larger city with boundless social and educational opportunities. As you begin your research, take note of the adoptive families’ homes, the activities around them, and the public/private schools in the area.

In choosing the perfect family for your baby, try to also consider how important education is to you, and how much the adoptive family values academics. Have the prospective parents completed a higher education? Do they have plans and resources to send your child off to college? What are their goals for the future and the future of your baby?

Often, an adoptive family’s education can indicate their level of financial stability. The waiting families at Adoptions With Love all have varying levels of income, but all are financially secure. Each prospective family at our agency has undergone a series of background checks to ensure that they can fully provide for a child.

As a private, non-profit adoption agency, Adoptions With Love has a very good relationship with each of our adoptive families. We assure you that each waiting family is ready and able to give your child the best home that he or she deserves. Any choice you make will be a wonderful one. For more information on choosing the right adoptive family for your baby, read our full guide today. Adoption is a positive choice. Selecting a family for your baby and building a relationship with the adoptive family can be a beautiful and courageous process.