Are you thinking about placing your baby for adoption? This decision can feel overwhelming at times. You did not plan for this pregnancy. You never expected to be in this position. However, the choice to make an adoption plan can be a positive one, and you may find there are many benefits in choosing adoption. An adoptive family can provide your baby with a safe, stable, secure home, and a life full of love and opportunities. The question is, how do you find parents to adopt your baby? If you are looking for parents to adopt your baby in Massachusetts, you are in the right place.
Selecting the adoptive parents is an important step in the adoption process. In Massachusetts, you have the option to choose the parents who will raise your baby. However, you must work with a licensed adoption agency to do so. (Learn more about how to place baby for adoption in Massachusetts here).
If you are already looking for parents to adopt your baby, you are already doing a wonderful job as an expectant/birth mother. You are putting the needs of your child first and taking the steps to ensure he or she has a wonderful life, beyond what you can provide at this time. Choosing a family is a thoughtful, brave, and loving decision for your baby. Read on, as we explain how you can find the best adoptive family in Massachusetts.
1. Start with an Adoption Agency
As you consider placing your baby for adoption, it is important to find a reputable and experienced adoption agency in your state. Massachusetts is considered an “agency” state, meaning local adoption laws require:
- You to work with a licensed, professional agency in Massachusetts.
- That a home study investigation is provided prior to the adoption taking place (unless waived by the court), which can be done through certain adoption agencies.
A home study is the process of interviewing and approving families to adopt a child. It ensures the family can provide a safe, stable, and loving home environment for a child. It ensures that they have the resources to raise a child, and that they are in good health to do so. As an expectant/birth mother, this can give you great peace of mind. Working with a Massachusetts adoption agency can help ensure your baby is placed with a safe and loving family.
Adoptions With Love is a fully licensed, private, non-profit adoption agency that works with expectant/birth mothers nationwide. Our adoption agency is based in Massachusetts, and we have many loving families nearby waiting to become parents. We conduct home studies for all waiting families before approving them to adopt. Each family goes through state and FBI background checks, in-person interviews, educational groups and submits letters of reference. The social workers inspect each prospective adoptive family’s home to ensure that it is a safe environment for a child. This all happens over a several month-long process, to ensure they are ready to bring a baby home.
We are dedicated to helping expectant/birth parents find the best possible home for their child, while offering the best care throughout – and long after – pregnancy. All of our services are confidential and completely free to expectant/birth parents.
2. Finding the Perfect Family
One of the free services you will get when working with an adoption agency is help in finding and choosing the parents for your baby. You will work with an adoption counselor to discuss your wishes for your baby and the type of family you wish him or her to have. After listening to your desires and needs, your adoption counselor will provide you with profiles of adoptive families waiting to adopt. These profiles often include background information, love stories, family values, hobbies, and future plans – along with many photographs and letters to you – to paint a picture for expectant/birth mothers making this incredibly important decision.
As you browse through these profiles, you can rest assured that these families are physically, mentally, emotionally, and even financially healthy. All the waiting families at Adoptions With Love have underdone the home study screening process above. We have confirmed they can provide a safe, loving, secure home for your baby.
In addition to the profiles, you may also choose to speak with – or even meet – a prospective adoptive family ahead to the adoption. . Some expectant/birth parents choose to meet the adoptive family for a cup of coffee or lunch to ask questions, get a better idea of who they are, and what values they hold close to their heart. You can also talk to them over the phone or via email. You do not have to meet with the family ahead of time if that would make you more comfortable. No matter what you decide, your adoption agency will be there to support you and guide you through the process of choosing an adoptive family.
You do not have find someone to adopt baby on your own. In fact, searching for things like “looking for parents to adopt my baby” online, and meeting with random couples online, can pose risks. To ensure your adoption is safe and legal, it is important to work with a professional. Also, because Massachusetts is an agency state, a private adoption arranged directly between an expectant/birth mother and a family is not legal or safe for you and your child. .
3. Choose an Adoption Plan That Works for You
Some expectant/birth mothers form a relationship with their child’s adoptive parents after meeting. This is called an open adoption. Open adoption can look different for every family. Open adoption means ongoing communication between birth and adoptive parents. It does not mean co-parenting, as some might think, and it does not necessarily mean in-person visits between birth mother and child – although that can be arranged if all parties agree to this arrangement.
Your open adoption plan might involve text or email updates a couple of times a year, or phone calls/virtual chats occasionally. The form and frequency of communication is up to you and agreed upon by the parents you choose for your baby. At Adoptions With Love, all hopeful adoptive parents agree to at least a semi-open adoption.
If you do not wish to have an open or semi-open adoption, you can opt for a closed adoption. There is no right or wrong adoption plan. Your adoption counselor can help you determine which type of plan makes sense for you and what makes you the most comfortable. At Adoptions With Love, we save photos and updates on file, should a birth parent choose a closed adoption and change their mind later. Adoption plans may be tweaked to accommodate the changing needs of a growing child and family.
4. Get Ongoing Support
Adoption is a lifelong journey. It does not end once the adoption papers are signed and the court rules that it is complete. With the help of a compassionate and understanding adoption agency, like Adoptions With Love, you can have the ongoing support and counseling services you need and deserve.
Adoptions With Love considers birth parents family. We offer the following services – free of charge – to expectant/birth mothers considering adoption in Massachusetts:
- Assistance custom-designing an adoption plan
- Arranging – and covering the costs of – quality medical care
- Housing assistance
- Financial assistance
- Legal assistance
- Ongoing Contact
Adoptions With Love is the leading choice for adoptions in Massachusetts. For more than 36 years, our caring and dedicated staff has been working with birth mothers across the country. No matter where you are in the adoption process, we are here to help. Call us any time at 800-722-7731, text us confidentially at 617-777-0072 or contact us online.