What Does Open Adoption Mean?
There is no single definition of open adoption. To each person, open adoption can mean something different. Just as no two people are exactly alike, no two adoption plans are exactly the same. At Adoptions With Love, expectant/birth mothers can design the type of adoption plan that works for them and meets their unique needs and desires.
For many expectant/birth moms, open adoption in Massachusetts typically involves:
- Choosing the adoptive family for their baby
- Communicating directly with the adoptive family, and – if desired – meeting them prior to baby’s arrival
- Maintaining a relationship with the baby’s adoptive family throughout the years
In choosing an open adoption, you are also opening the door to many other positive decisions in the adoption process. Many expectant/birth mothers who have an established relationship with their child’s adoptive parents choose to include them in the baby’s big arrival. For example, you may wish to have them in the delivery room at the hospital. Of course, this will depend on your comfort level. You can decide whether you want time alone with the baby, or if you would like the adoptive parents to be there with you. Every detail may be planned ahead of baby’s birth. If you are making your adoption plan from your hospital bed, or you are making arrangements after your baby’s birth, that is okay, too. It is never too late to make an adoption plan.
As an open adoption agency in Massachusetts, every hopeful adoptive family at Adoptions With Love agrees to having at least a semi-open adoption. This means they are open to some contact with the birth mother no matter what, whether that be sending letters and pictures, or having meetings that are mediated by the adoption agency. A semi-open adoption means you have contact with the adoptive family, but that contact may not be direct.
In an open adoption, the birth mother is in the driver’s seat. YOU get to carve the path and create a plan that works best for you and your baby. YOU get to choose what type of contact you would like to have, and how much you would like to stay in touch. Openness may evolve over time. You may choose to connect with the family via video call, text messages, or Skype or shared photo account. There are also more traditional ways of communicating with your child’s adoptive family, such as snail mail, email, phone calls, or in-person visits.
At Adoptions With Love, your social worker can help you negotiate the type of adoption plan you want. The plans are put into legal and binding contracts, with room for renegotiation throughout your child’s life.