Are you a teenager who is facing an unplanned pregnancy? Did you just find out the shocking news? Or have you known for some time, but have been keeping it to yourself? No matter what situation you are in, know that you are not alone. Millions of young women face unplanned pregnancies each and every year. In fact, about one in every four teen girls in the U.S. will get pregnant before her 20th birthday.
At Adoptions With Love, we understand that this pregnancy can be a scary situation, no matter how many other teenagers are facing the same circumstance. We want you to know that you do not need to face this all alone. We can help guide you through this experience, every step of the way.
While you may not have planned this pregnancy, you can certainly take control of this situation and make positive, responsible choices for yourself and your child. Now is the time to take a deep breath, slow down, and take care of yourself as you consider your options going forward. Adoptions With Love can offer you teen pregnancy advice without judgement or pressure, and help you through this difficult time. You can always talk to us – Our conversations, and our services, are completely confidential.
Read on as we share some advice for pregnant teens such as yourself.
Advice on How to Tell Your Parents
Sharing your pregnancy news can be a scary step. It is important to speak openly and honestly with your parents, without distractions. Set up a time and place to have a calm, quiet discussion where you can share your news. If it makes you feel more comfortable, have someone else with you who can lend emotional support. This confidant could be a trusted friend, your boyfriend, or even a social worker at Adoptions With Love.
During this conversation, be sure to tell your parents that you need their support. This approach may foster a more peaceful and positive conversation.
Some parents try to force an agenda upon their pregnant teen. Depending on their personal beliefs, they may try to pressure you to take a certain path with this pregnancy, such as parenting or termination. It is important to remember that this is YOUR life, your pregnancy, and your body, no matter how old you are. You are the only person with the power to make a decision for your baby and your future.
Where to Go for Teen Pregnancy Support
One of the first steps in processing this news is to speak with someone you can trust. If you are nervous about sharing the news with your parents, this individual can help you prepare the discussion. This person could be a sibling, a friend, your boyfriend, or even your doctor. You can also go to an adoption agency for help. Adoptions With Love offers free support and counseling to pregnant teenagers.
As you consider who this confidant will be, try to imagine the reaction. You will want to lean on someone who can offer emotional support without the judgment, agenda, or pressure. This person will be your greatest support system. If you are unsure where to turn, know that you can always turn to Adoptions With Love for help. We can teach you about your different options, answer questions, and give advice when you need it most.
How to Balance Pregnancy with Life
As you wrap your mind around this pregnancy, you may be wondering how to continue living your life. This is completely normal. As a teen, you are likely going to school, living with your parents, spending time with friends, maybe even working a part-time job. How will you balance a pregnancy, too?
If you are still in high school, you may want to find a supportive group of friends who will help you through this difficult time. Talk to your school about your situation, as well. Your health – both physical and mental – is very important. You may face some days when attending school is not an option. You may find yourself struggling with morning sickness, back pain, or emotional stress. Have a friend take notes, and bring home any homework assignments you may have missed while you were out. This will help you stay on track.
We hope that this advice for pregnant teenagers such as yourself has been helpful. For even more helpful advice, be sure to check out our free eBook: A Guide to Teen Pregnancy. It may also be helpful to read stories from other teens who have been in this situation.
Adoptions With Love has caring counselors and social workers who can chat with you and share guidance any day of the week, any time of day. Feel free to call us toll-free at 1-800-722-7731, or visit us online at awlonline.org.