Personal Stories

Ella’s Parents’ Emotional Roller Coaster

It’s been nearly 4 1/2 years since I first laid eyes on my daughter, and yet, to this day, not a day goes by when I’m not overwhelmed with gratitude that the world aligned itself to bring her into my life and family.

We found ourselves at Adoptions With Love and worked with Nancy and Amy from the initial call and continue to do so today. They have been tremendous resources and solid “rocks” in a process that felt uncertain at best and never-ending at worst.

About a month after our introduction to AWL, Nancy called to let us know that the birth mother was scheduled to be induced the following day, and that she was really hoping that we would be there in person to greet and love our daughter right from birth. While this was a change from our original plan we found it to be such an amazing indication of love and commitment on the part of the birth mother, and agreed that it would be the best welcome for our daughter as well.

I flew out early the next day to first meet Kelly, the birth mother, and only hours later to be the first to hold Ella when she was born. My husband and son joined us the following day, and we all had the opportunity to get to know Kelly and her family a little bit in the days that followed. Kelly’s love and concern for the well-being of her baby was so evident, and the fact that she recognized that we shared this love with her made our short time together a beautiful and memorable experience.

We were able to leave the hospital with Ella when she was three days old, but due to state regulations were required to remain in her birth state for another five days. We made a temporary home in a hotel nearby, with a complete homecoming celebration to follow upon our return home approximately a week after Ella was born.

In the years that have followed we have gladly provided letters and pictures detailing Ella’s development and milestones for AWL to share with Kelly, and it warms our hearts to know that she continues to eagerly anticipate receipt of these updates.

My husband is an adoptee himself, and grew up knowing that he wanted to one day “pay forward” this act of love in and for his life by adopting a child of his own. We are so grateful to Kelly and Adoptions With Love for helping to bring Ella into our family.