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Need Someone to Adopt Your Baby? How to Find the Perfect Family for Your Child

Adoption today offers more choices than ever before. Expectant/birth parents considering adoption may feel overwhelmed with all the thoughts, feelings, and questions that come up in the process: How do you go about making an adoption plan for your baby? How can you ensure he/she will go to a safe and loving home? How do you know you are choosing the right adoptive family?

At Adoptions With Love, there is a lengthy process that prospective adoptive parents must go through before getting approved to adopt. For each family, our trained staff completes a thorough screening process that involves background checks, multiple interviews, and home visits (called a home study). At our agency, every single expectant/birth mother can be as involved as she wants to be throughout the adoption process – even down to selecting the very family who will adopt her baby. If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and thinking, ‘I need someone to adopt my baby,’ then read on for advice on how to find the perfect match.

Thanks to the modern world we live in, information can be shared in an instant over the Internet. However, this can also bring some risks. Expectant/birth parents who take to the World Wide Web to search or post “looking for someone to adopt my baby” put both themselves and their baby at risk for unwanted results – the families that show up or respond to your search may not have been screened, background checked, or legally approved to adopt. That is why we recommend working with a licensed, well-trusted adoption agency like Adoptions With Love, to help ensure your child is placed with a safe, loving, and prepared adoptive family. Our organization is fully committed to placing every child in the best, most caring and secure homes possible.

Choosing the best adoption agency for you is an important part of this process. Adoptions With Love is a full-service, private, non-profit organization that offers comprehensive, free-of-cost services for expectant/birth mothers nationwide. Our trained social workers will work with you to make an adoption plan that best suits your wishes and needs. We will help you find adoptive parents that meet your expectations, and that can provide the type of home you want for your child. We will guide you 100-percent of the way, both now and after the adoption takes place.

If you choose to work with Adoptions With Love, we will:

  • Educate you on your many options
  • Explain the adoption process and help you decide if adoption is right for you
  • Listen to your wishes and hopes for your child
  • Show you waiting adoptive families that meet your wishes
  • Design an adoption plan tailored to your needs
  • Walk you through the adoption laws in your state
  • Always be here for you

At Adoptions With Love, we want you to feel supported and guided throughout this emotional journey. Together, we will go over all your adoption options, including how open or closed you would like the adoption to be, and give you profiles of the waiting families looking to adopt. You can take time to look through their profiles, read their personal letters to you, and choose the family that feels “right.” If you wish, you may even meet and get to know a prospective family. These decisions are entirely up to you.

In finding the perfect family for your baby, we will ask you questions such as:

  • What kind of qualities do you hope your child’s adoptive parents will have?
  • What kind of home do you want your baby to have?
  • What kind of childhood do you envision your child enjoying?
  • Are there any specific values you hope the parents will instill in him/her?

These are some of the many questions to consider when deciding on an adoptive family. You may also think about whether you want your child to have siblings, or pets, or parents of a certain race or religion. Thanks to the comprehensive profiles and photo books made by prospective parents, Adoptions With Love can share all this information with you. We will take the time to discuss your vision, to help you find the perfect fit. After hand-picking the right family, you may also choose to talk with them over the phone, or meet them in person, to get a better sense of who they are.

Though you may not have planned this pregnancy, you can plan for your baby’s life.  You have the incredible opportunity to choose an adoptive family for your baby. In selecting the adoptive parents, you can provide your child with an amazing gift: a life of opportunity, stability, and love. Knowing you have personally selected the perfect family for your child will likely bring great peace-of-mind for your decision and courageous leap. Click here for more information on choosing a family for your baby.

Before you take to Google or social media to search for “parents to adopt my baby,” consider the safe and secure alternative of working with a licensed agency like Adoptions With Love. We will never let your concerns or desires go unheard. We want you to feel confident in both your adoption plan and the adoptive family that you choose for your child.

Whether you are facing an unplanned pregnancy or have already given birth and are considering adoption, please reach out to us for more information. We can help guide you through this journey and provide the support you deserve. You should never feel alone in this process. Our loving staff is always here for you 24/7. Just call 1-800-722-7731 or text us confidentially at 617-777-0072 to get started. Or, to learn more about choosing a family for your baby, you may download our free guide below:


Is an Open Adoption Agency for You?

An unplanned pregnancy can bring about a range of emotions and life-changing decisions. If you are not ready to become a parent just yet, you may be considering adoption for your baby. Making an adoption plan requires both courage and commitment. It is also one of the most loving and selfless sacrifices you can make for your child at this time. Rest assured you have options. If you are considering adoption for your baby, you may have heard about the possibility to make an open adoption plan. What is an open adoption, exactly, and is it right for you? As an open adoption agency offering all types of adoption plans, Adoptions With Love wants to help you understand your options and help you decide whether open adoption is the best path for you and your baby.

What is an Open Adoption?

An open adoption can take on different meanings to different people. For some expectant/birth mothers, it simply means meeting and having contact with the adoptive parents before the baby’s birth. For others, it involves keeping in touch for many years after the adoption is complete. Many women establish a relationship with the adoptive parents before the baby is born and invite them to attend the birth. Sometimes, an open adoption involves contact through letters and pictures, phone calls, emails, or Skype. In some cases, the birth mother will have in-person visits with the families after the birth.

In general, the main components that describe an open adoption include:

  • Swapping basic contact information – In a fully open adoption, you and your child’s family will have one another’s last names, phone numbers, and email addresses.
  • Pre-placement contact with adoptive family. Should you decide to meet your baby’s adoptive family before the birth, they will come meet you at your convenience, wherever is comfortable for you. Or, if you prefer, you can set up some time to talk to them on the phone and get to know one another.
  • Post-placement contact arrangements for ongoing communication. Many open adoptions involve ongoing, post-adoption contact between the birth and adoptive family. As an expectant/birth mother, this is your choice. In your open adoption agreement, you may wish to exchange letters and pictures only, or have ongoing phone calls, emails, and in-person visits.

There is no right or wrong way to determine which option is best for you. It is your choice to decide how much or how little you would like to communicate with the adoptive parents. At Adoptions With Love, an experienced and caring social worker can help you decide which path is right for you.

The Perks of an Open Adoption

If you are considering an open adoption, it can be helpful to know the benefits of an open adoption plan. Some expectant/birth mothers find comfort in open adoption. While it can be an emotional process, just knowing there is an option for post-placement contact (the chance to see/speak to her child again) can help a mother come to terms with this decision. For many birth mothers, open adoption brings peace of mind just knowing how their child is growing and developing. Open adoption can also serve as a reminder of the incredible gift that you have given to your child – a supportive, dedicated family and a life of opportunity. Open adoption can also be a great choice for the child. Research shows that open adoption has a positive impact on a child throughout his or her life.

While there are many perks to choosing an open adoption, not everyone finds it to be the best choice. This is why, as an open adoption agency, Adoptions With Love offers a range of contact options, including semi-open and closed adoption plans.

Making a Plan That Works for You

Adoption With Love is a non-profit, open adoption agency that offers open adoptions, closed adoptions, and everything in between. As an expectant/birth mother, you can enjoy this flexibility because it means making a choice that caters to your own life and wishes. While some birth mothers feel a strong desire to maintain an open or semi-open adoption, others may not. Some birth mothers feel more equipped for a closed adoption. There is no right or wrong answer. This is your choice. Just like no two people are alike, no two adoptions are exactly the same. At Adoptions With Love, we take the time to sit with you to discuss your wishes, needs, and adoption plan. We can help you determine which plan is best for you and your baby. We will also set up any desired communication in the most comfortable way possible.

Post-Placement Care

After the adoption process is complete, Adoptions With Love will keep in contact with you. Whether you choose an open adoption, a semi-open adoption, or a closed adoption plan, we will always be here for you. Adoptions With Love offers free, ongoing counseling and emotional support for birth mothers who courageously made an adoption plan. Adoption is an emotional journey that can be a lifelong process. We want to ensure you have the best experience possible, and that you get the care that you need.

To learn more about making an adoption plan, you may call Adoptions With Love at 1-800-722-7731 or text us confidentially at 1-617-777-0072.  We are available ‘round the clock to answer your questions and educate you on your options.  If you would like more information about open adoption, please download our free Guide to Open Adoption.


Talking About Adoption: A Birth Mother’s Perspective

Years ago, Adoptions With Love met a courageous young woman facing an unplanned pregnancy; she knew she could not provide for a baby at the time, and wanted her daughter to have the best possible life. With great love and consideration, she created an open adoption plan and chose the right family to raise her daughter.

While this birth mother does not go sharing her adoption story from rooftops, she does take the time to help others understand adoption when the opportunity arises. When hearing negative comments about adoption, she takes time to educate others on talking about it positively or helps them to think about it from a different angle. In this interview, C shares her thoughts on adoption language and provides advice for others on how to talk about adoption the “right” way.

A lot of people don’t fully understand the emotional implications of adoption, and will ask things like, “Why didn’t you keep your baby?” or say, “I could never give my baby away to strangers.” Do you get (what seem like insensitive) questions or comments like this?

I really haven’t gotten comments like this from people who know about my daughter; I tend to hear them from people who don’t know I’m a birth mother. Adoption is certainly a subject that most people feel they have a right to comment on, which is sometimes frustrating because they haven’t experienced it, and don’t always have an accurate perception of what adoption is.

I try to point out, in those moments, that you never have any idea what you’d do in a situation like that until you’re in it, so it’s wrong to judge other people for the impossible decisions they make in those moments.

I didn’t raise my daughter because I was not the best mother for her. I wasn’t prepared. I wanted her to have the best life, and I was not the best option for that. I chose adoption for her.

I didn’t give my baby to strangers. I spent hours reading stories of parents who would love my daughter, found a family that felt right, and personally placed my daughter into her mother’s arms. You don’t give a baby away. She isn’t a gift or an object. She is the most important person in my world.

How do those make you feel?

Usually frustrated, to be honest. It’s hard to go through such an emotional process, to make a beautiful and life-changing decision, just to have someone reduce it to an apathetic sentence or two. It can make me angry or sad when adoption is misrepresented that way, because I’ve had such a positive experience with it. That’s why I think it’s so important to challenge those assumptions and hopefully shift the way people think of adoption.

I think the important thing to hold on to, in a lot of these conversations, is that people form opinions based on what they know and have experienced themselves. So if you, as a birth mom, are comfortable with talking about your own experience, it can educate others and give them another point of view on the subject. I’m usually not comfortable telling my own story, simply because of my own situation, but I do usually try to play devil’s advocate in those situations as best I can. I try to make sure that I offer another perspective.

What is your typical response to people who use words like “give up” and “put up” for adoption? (I know you had several thoughts in your blog here.)

I have a pretty visceral reaction to hearing people say birth mothers “gave up” their baby or that they “put up” their baby for adoption. I try to remember that most people don’t mean any harm by it, but I definitely take the time to change the language of people who know about my daughter.

“Give up” sounds to me like a bad habit, like my beautiful daughter was a mistake I needed to get rid of and adoption was the easy way out. It offends me to think that my daughter is anything but the smart, curious, amazing, funny girl she is. She’s the best thing that ever happened to me, and I’m so proud of who she is, and saying I gave her up implies that her existence was a problem that I needed adoption to fix. Nothing could be further from the truth.

“Put up for adoption” is another phrase I hate, because it sounds impersonal and transactional. Like I posted an ad on Craigslist for newborn baby — free to a good home. As I mentioned, babies are not gifts or commodities. They are the most precious parts of ourselves and as birth mothers, we love our children more than I can possibly express.

I much prefer saying that I chose adoption, or that I placed my daughter with a family. I think that captures the feeling much better – that I chose her parents, that I was involved the whole way through, that it was a decision I made out of love, that I took my time to make the choice. Most of all, that I took the time to choose the right people – I didn’t just accept whoever came along first.

Do you have any advice for other birth moms, adoptive parents, or even children who don’t know how to respond to language such as this?:

My responses usually go something like this, when these topics come up:

  • “Keep your baby”
    • I chose not to raise my daughter — I wanted her to have a loving family, and I thought she deserved better than an unprepared single mother who wasn’t ready to be a parent. So I chose a stable, happy, healthy family for her.
  • “Unwanted pregnancy”
    • It wasn’t unwanted. It was unplanned. There is a massive, and important, difference.
  • “Give up” or “give away”
    • I didn’t give her away. She isn’t an object. I chose parents who were better prepared than I was, people who were emotionally and financially prepared for a child.
  • “Real parents”
    • I am real, and my daughter’s parents are real. She’s my daughter because I gave birth to her, and she’s their daughter because they are raising her. To imply that any of us are not real is to diminish what we’ve all gone through in this process, and I don’t accept that.
  • “Adopted child”
    • She’s their child. She knows she’s adopted and they are raising her to know that it’s simply part of her story, part of who she is. There is no shame whatsoever in being adopted — it just means you have extra people who love you.

Do you have any advice – for people in general – on talking about adoption?

ASK QUESTIONS! We have no idea what you’re curious about, unless you ask. We have no idea what your objections are, until you discuss them (I emphasize “discuss” and not lecture, impose, or judge). We have no idea what you’re interested in hearing, until you bring it up. I am always willing to clarify or explain or talk about my story. I think people avoid asking questions about adoption because they assume it’s a difficult topic, but even when it is (occasionally it is, yes), I’m usually just so glad that they came out and asked. Then I know what they’re wondering about, and I can give them information.

As birth mothers, we don’t get to brag about our kids as much as most mothers do, so most of us love the opportunity to talk about adoption and our children and their families. Ask questions, get clarification. Ask us about our experience with adoption, why we chose it, what the process was like, how we feel about it. Don’t be afraid to talk to us about it. It’s a huge part of our lives and we think about it all the time, so sometimes it’s nice knowing that someone else is too.

When people ask things like “don’t you love your baby?” or “don’t you want to see your baby again?”, or even call the adoptive parents “strangers,” it makes it sound like birth mothers don’t have a ton of say in the process. They may not know that birth mothers today do. That’s why we prefer to say “make an adoption plan” at AWL – because you have the option to plan for your baby’s life, including choosing the parents. What are your thoughts on this?

“Don’t you love your baby?” That one’s easy: yes. More than the earth. More than you can imagine. Imagine what it takes to go through pregnancy, go through childbirth, hold your beautiful baby in your arms and accept that you cannot provide the life you think your child deserves. It’s impossible. It’s an impossible choice and it hurts. It’s the hardest choice I’ve ever made in my entire life, no contest. But the love you have for your child outweighs everything. The love is more important than the doubts, the fears, the deliberation.

At the end of the day, you make the choice – whether to raise your child, or to place them with a family – out of love. You make that choice for your child, not for you, BECAUSE you love them so much.

“Don’t you want to see your baby again?” Well… it’s complicated. Yes, of course I want to see her. I have seen her, and I always want to see her again. I think about it all the time. But I also understand the birth mothers who don’t see their children. It is impossible to explain the conflicting emotions. You want to see your baby – of course you do. But it’s another one of those choices that has a lot to do with emotion, and what you ultimately think is best for your child. Some birth moms think it’s better if they stay away entirely, to let their child grow up with his or her family without influence from their birth parents. Some birth moms want to be involved all the time, on every level, as much as possible. Most of us, though, fall somewhere in between. I love seeing my daughter, but I also do my best not to intrude on their lives too often. It depends entirely on your situation, on your child’s family, on how everyone feels about it. There’s no right or wrong answer. It’s complicated. The emotions are complicated.

Is there anything else you want people to know about adoption, or about your experience?

I think there’s a misconception that adoption is this quick, simple thing – like you just fill out a form, hand your baby off to stranger, and move on with your life. That doesn’t even resemble my actual experience. Adoption has been (and sometimes still is) an emotional roller coaster, and you have these moments of unbearable sadness and intense joy, and you have all of these incredible experiences you never imagined possible.

I think of adoption as such an amazing and loving and beautiful thing, and I wish people knew that it is emotional, but it can also be wonderful.

I have held my daughter and talked to her, have had conversations with her parents, have seen pictures of my daughter on almost every holiday. I plan to be a part of her life, and I have by no means “moved on” from the experience. It’s a part of me and my life, of who I am, and that’s never going to change.

If you are a birth parent or adoptive parent looking to learn more about adoption language, please download Adoption With Love’s free “Guide to Talking About Adoption” below. For more information on adoption in general, you may call Adoptions With Love toll-free at 1-800-722-7731.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Mother’s Day & Adoption: Celebrating All Moms This Mother’s Day

There is a famous quote that goes, “Mothers hold their children’s hands for a short while, but their hearts forever.” No matter how a woman became a mother, and no matter when she did, there is something to be said about her love for her children. A mother’s love is unconditional, understanding, and unending— wherever she or her children might be.

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This Mother’s Day, we would like to celebrate all the women who carry a mother’s love. All the women who we carry within our hearts. We would like to honor the strength, the courage, and the selflessness that goes into being a mother, whether by birth or by adoption.

The second Sunday in May marks Mother’s Day. On May 13, 2018, many of us will take time to recognize our mothers and the mother-like figures in our lives. This year, Adoptions With Love would like to remind you that every mother has a different story. There is not one single thing that defines a mother, and there are many types of mothers out there. We would like to celebrate them all. This Mother’s Day, we will be honoring:

  • The women who became mothers through adoption
  • The women who became mothers through birth
  • The women who selflessly made an adoption plan, to give their children the best possible lives
  • The women who are praying and waiting to become mothers for the first time
  • The women who have experienced the loss of a child
  • The women who are guardians, teachers, and mentors for children
  • The women who lovingly helped raise children in foster care
  • The women who parented their grandchildren or other family members
  • The women who have financially sponsored children

This holiday, we would like to especially acknowledge those women who made motherhood possible for adoptive families all over the country; the women who made careful, thought-out, and loving adoption plans in the best interests of their children; the women who we often refer to as “birth mothers.”

 “They are not kidding when they say that mothers are strong women. We need to be strong in more ways than our children will ever know.” — M.B. ANTEVASIN

Adoption is the most difficult sacrifices a mother can make for her baby. It requires great strength and consideration. It is often one of the best choices she can make for her child’s future. If you are considering adoption or have recently placed your baby for adoption, know that you are not alone.

One birth mother who placed through Adoptions With Love shares, “Whoever is thinking about making an adoption plan, it will no doubt be the hardest decision in your life, you’ll have your good days along with your bad, but when it comes down to it, it’s the greatest thing I have ever done in my life. Knowing I helped complete someone’s family and also gained a family of my own is the best feeling.”

This time of year can be bittersweet for many birth moms, whether they have recently made an adoption plan or placed twenty-so years ago. Along with love, Mother’s Day can stir feelings of loss. If you made the choice of adoption and are experiencing difficult emotions, here is advice from some birth mothers who have walked in similar shoes:

“I think the most helpful thing I ever heard or said on the subject was that no matter what choice you make – whether you raise your child yourself or choose adoption – you still gave birth to them, and that makes you a mother. Being a birth mother doesn’t make you less of a mother than a woman who raises her own child, or less of a mother than a woman who adopts. You are all mothers, and being different kinds of mothers is okay.” – Chloe

“The best advice I think I could give to other birth mothers is try to think of the positives on this day. I know for some it can be very emotional, but just think to yourself how you and the child will always share a special bond and be a part of each other. The day shouldn’t be about grieving your decision, but knowing you did what was right for your child and that, even though you aren’t their mother figure, you are a special person to them in more ways than one.” – Brittney

“My advice to you dealing with all the emotions during this time is to just remember most importantly, it’s okay to have these feelings. And for me, this year is my second Mother’s Day and I don’t have all of the sad ‘what if’ feelings anymore. It takes time and every person deals with things in their own way. When I was feeling down around this time last year, I asked for pictures of my daughter and just had a conversation with my adoptive mom asking if anything new has happened, how their weekend was… little things to put a smile on my face!” – Kaelyn

Recognizing Birth Mothers This Mother’s Day, and Everyday

Women who chose adoption for their babies are often called “birth mothers.” Some women feel this is the most accurate term, while others do not feel the title is as intimate as their role. This is a deeply personal opinion. Many birth mothers choose to take on special names as their adoption plans evolve. For example, one woman who made an open adoption plan at Adoptions With Love gained a very special title after the birth of her son: Mère, which means “mother” in French. In the hospital, she was struggling with the question of who she would become to her baby. What would he call her as he grows up? It was soon after her mom received a text message from his adoptive mom:

“We were talking about names for Erica, so she has a title to Aiden too. We thought of “Mom” in a foreign language, like French, since it is part of their heritage. We thought he could say “Mère” or something similar. It’s just an idea, and we are open to anything, but we wanted to make sure that there is a title special just for Erica.”

As soon as Erica heard this title, she knew who she was and who she would be in her son’s life. You can read her full story, “Becoming Mère,” here. Here are what some other birth moms at AWL said of their identity and role as a “birth mom”:

 “[Birth mother] is the easiest explanation, the simplest term. I think of my daughter as my daughter, but I hardly ever think of myself as her mother. The parents I chose for her are her mother and father. When my daughter cries for Mom, it isn’t me she’s asking for. And that’s okay. ‘Birth mother’ is an easy way to separate that; that she’s my daughter, but she is also someone else’s daughter.” – Chloe

“I do identify with the term ‘birth mother.’ One thing I don’t want, though, is for my daughter to go by that when recognizing me – meaning she calls her dad “dad,” nana “nana,” her mom “momma.” I don’t want to be called “birth mom” or by my first name. It’s important to me to be something special to identify me.” – Kaelyn

Some birth moms and adoptive families will even celebrate “Birth Mother’s Day,” which falls on the Saturday before Mother’s Day. Others prefer to celebrate as mothers together on Sunday. This varies depending on the adoption arrangement – open or closed – and personal feelings. Here are what some birth moms had to say about the idea of “Birth Mother’s Day”:

“I do think that birth mothers are mothers, and that we need to educate people and help them understand that we’re mothers, even though we aren’t raising our children.” – Chloe

I think that although my child isn’t living with me and I’m not actually raising her, it doesn’t make me less of a mother to be recognized on a separate day than others.” – Brittney

“I think [Birth Mother’s Day] is a great way to recognize us and the decision we made. I like that it is separate from Mother’s Day because the way I look at it is, we are separate from the role our mother’s play and from the role the adoptive mother of our child plays.” – Bianca

“I believe it’s very important for all moms to celebrate, regardless of being a birth mom, adoptive mom, etc. We are all mothers and, depending on each individual’s situation, some birth mothers with closed adoptions don’t get the opportunity to receive a phone call from their adoptive family saying, “Happy Mother’s Day.” Many people don’t recognize the sacrifice we make as birth mothers, so I definitely believe we deserve a day for us.” – Kaelyn

On the subject of Mother’s Day, they also revealed:

“It’s still hard for me to relate to Mother’s Day since I don’t do all the normal motherly duties. With that being said, I feel like I almost take it as any other day but, celebrating my mom of course and thinking of my son a little extra. The day itself does not make me sad; it reminds of the place I hold in my son’s life and how we will always be a part of each other.” – Bianca

“I would like to be recognized just by a simple “happy Mother’s Day.” I don’t need gifts or anything fancy because I couldn’t ask for anything else. I do hope that when my daughter is older she’ll send a handmade card just like I did when I was younger for my mother!” – Kaelyn

A Mother’s Love

Famous actress Sophia Loren once said, “When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.” This statement could not be truer. No matter what kind of mother you are, no matter where you are in relation to your child, he or she is a piece of you. You never truly stop thinking about your child, and that makes you a mom. As one birth mother told Adoptions With Love:

I think that as mothers, we think about our babies all the time. My daughter crosses my mind every single day. Sometimes as a quick passing reference, sometimes in deep thought. But she’s there somewhere every day. So I really wish that adoption and being a birth mother weren’t such taboo subjects, because it’s so much healthier and easier when we can talk about all the conflicting emotions that come with being birth moms!”

Adoption is a sacrifice that requires a mother’s strength, bravery, and most of all, love. Adoption creates families. Whether you are a birth mom who needs someone to talk to, are considering adoption for your baby, or would like to adopt, please contact Adoptions With Love at 1-800-722-7731.

*For the purpose of anonymity, all names have been changed

 

 


May is Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month: Information & Help for Pregnant Teens

Each May, the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services recognizes Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month as a time to spread awareness about the number of adolescents facing an unplanned pregnancy, and ask ourselves what we can do to help. This May, Adoptions With Love would like to shed light not just on the topic of teen pregnancy, but on the positive options and resources available to pregnant teens during this difficult time.

In a recent infographic, we showed that nearly 1,700 teens give birth each week. In the United States, there are over 550,000 teen pregnancies each year. On average, about 1 in 4 young women will give birth before their 20th birthday. If you are facing a teen pregnancy, know that you are not alone.

As a young woman, you may be feeling nervous and unsure of your unplanned pregnancy options. Do you have to parent your child? Do you have to tell your parents? What if you are not ready to become a mom? Is adoption an option for teens? What about the baby’s father- does he have to play a part in your decision? It is important that women – and women of all ages – understand their rights and choices, particularly when it comes to adoption.

We understand that there is a lot of teen pregnancy information circulating on the Internet, and much of it can be unclear or overwhelming. If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want help weighing all your options, we are here for you. Adoptions With Love is an excellent resource for those looking for some guidance and teen pregnancy help.

You Are Not Alone

You may have felt very scared and alone after getting that positive test result. Right now, you may feel like the world is on your shoulders, and that no adult can possibly understand the stress and pressure on you. You want to make the best possible decision, but do not know where to start or who to turn to for support. No matter the situation at home – parents’ disapproval, lack of support from the baby’s father, or an unstable home life – there is always help available. You are not alone.

The caring staff at Adoptions With Love is here to ensure that you have the support and guidance you deserve throughout this emotional journey. We will discuss all your options with you, teach you more about adoption, and provide neutral teen pregnancy help — all free of pressure and free of cost.

As a teen, you may not have considered adoption for your baby before. Many teens do not know that adoption is an option for them. Many only know of the kind of adoptions in the movies, those surrounded by secrecy. Some think of adoption as an act of “giving up.” The truth is, adoption is a positive act of love that allows you to give your baby a life full of love, family, nourishment, opportunity, stability, and safety. Today, adoptions are also very open.

When making an adoption plan today, you can choose the perfect family to raise your baby and meet them in-person. You may also have the option to stay in touch with them, and your child, over the years.

Adoption is certainly not easy, but it is one of the most loving decisions you can make for your baby. You did not plan to get pregnant, but you can make a thoughtful plan for your baby’s life. The social workers at Adoptions With Love understand that this is an emotionally-trying experience, and will take the time to listen to your hopes and needs, and help you create the best possible adoption plan for you.

Choosing Your Perfect Adoption Plan

When seeking teen pregnancy help, you may have many questions or worries about the adoption process. You may feel nervous about giving birth. You may wonder if you will be able to part ways with your baby once he or she is born. These are all common concerns. Rest assured you have many options when it comes to adoption. You do not have to commit to an all-or-nothing plan, where the baby goes with the adoptive family and that is the end of contact. Today, you can choose to have an open adoption, meaning you can maintain communication with your child’s family over the years (via letters and pictures, phone calls, video chats, back-and-forth emails, or even in-person contact) if you would like. Children in open adoption arrangements are generally happier than those in closed adoptions.

Of course, open adoption is not right for everyone. Perhaps you prefer to remain anonymous, keep your information private, and feel that closed adoption is the best option for you. We understand completely, and this is an option for you at Adoptions With Love. If making an adoption plan becomes too emotional, you can leave the big decisions (like choosing the family) up to our trained social workers.

When it comes to adoption, there is no hard-and-fast rule, no one-size-fits-all plan. You choose the adoption plan that best suits you and your baby’s best interests. Adoptions With Love will help guide you through this process to design your perfect adoption plan.

The Future Looks Bright

Many teens facing unplanned pregnancies also worry about their education. If you are in high school or college, you may be wondering how you will complete your education and reach your goals. This is an understandable concern. An estimated 60 percent of teenage mothers do not finish high school. Of the thousands of young women who have children in college, 61 percent do not complete their degree. Your pregnancy does not have to put an end to your education. When you choose adoption, you can still pursue your goals and give your baby a wonderful life. To offer some guidance on this topic, Adoptions With Love has answered some common questions about pregnancy and education.

No matter your age or situation, Adoptions With Love wants you to know that there are plenty of options and teen pregnancy resources available. As a full-service, non-profit adoption agency, Adoptions With Love can give that very support to you. If you are considering adoption, we are here to give you professional and supportive counseling, legal guidance, and financial assistance at no cost to you.

If you or someone you know is facing an unplanned pregnancy, please do not hesitate to call Adoptions With Love toll free and confidentially at 1-800-722-7731. You may also text us 24/7 at 1-617-777-0072. For more teen pregnancy information, please download our free guide below.


State by State: How to Place Your Baby for Adoption in Tennessee

Are you facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption in Tennessee? Right now, you may be feeling especially scared or overwhelmed. You want the best possible life for your baby, but also feel that you are not ready to raise a child at this time. You are not alone. Adoptions With Love is here to listen to you, to answer your questions, and to help you make the most positive, long-term decision for you and your baby – no matter what it might be.

Adoptions With Love is a licensed, non-profit adoption agency helping expectant/birth parents nationwide find the best possible homes for their children. Whether you just found out you are pregnant, are in your third trimester, or have already given birth, we extend our support to you.

If you are still exploring your unplanned pregnancy options, know that Adoptions With Love is always available to educate and guide you through this important decision. If you know you would like to place your baby for adoption in Tennessee, we can help you navigate the entire adoption process, from beginning to end. Our trusted Tennessee adoption agency partner will meet you, wherever you are, to help you understand the adoption laws in your area and make the perfect plan for your baby.

In this short guide, we will walk you through some of the steps you must take to make an adoption plan in Tennessee.

Choose a reputable adoption agency.

Your first step in the adoption process will be to choose the right adoption agency to guide you. There are many adoption professionals out there today, but it is important to find someone you truly trust to be there throughout this unexpected journey – not only during your pregnancy and the adoption, but also throughout your life. Choose an adoption agency that will discuss all your options with you, listen to your wishes, and respect any choice you make. You should never feel pressured to make an adoption plan, and any decision you make should be well-informed. That is why it is so important to select an adoption agency that knows about adoptions in your state, and that will provide you the support you need and deserve. Adoptions With Love has trained adoption professionals nationwide, and extends a range of free services to expectant/birth mothers in need of help.

Meet with a dedicated adoption counselor to begin your plan.

After choosing an adoption agency, you will begin working with a dedicated, licensed adoption social worker. She will be the person helping you design an adoption plan, and the person you can call if you ever want to chat. You can reach out to your adoption counselor with any questions or concerns. You should also schedule times to meet regularly with your counselor, to talk about your decision, about open vs. closed adoption, and about any feelings you might be experiencing throughout this journey. At Adoptions With Love, we feel this is a crucial part of the adoption process. We want to make sure you have the opportunity to learn about all of your options, all of your birth mother rights, and know exactly what to expect before, during, and after an adoption takes place.

Understand the adoption laws in Tennessee.

Adoption laws vary state to state.  In Tennessee, no parent can sign legal adoption documents until the 72 hours after the baby is born. This gives birth mothers time to spend with their babies, and think about their choice. Adoption is a lifelong decision. That is why, at Adoptions With Love, we want you to be completely certain you are making the best possible choice for your child.

There are many other laws regarding the financial aid you may receive, your rights and responsibilities as an expectant/birth mother, as well as the rights of your baby’s biological father.  For this reason, it is crucial to work with an adoption agency that has attorneys specifically trained in the state of Tennessee.

Adoptions With Love works with a team of compassionate and knowledgeable adoption attorneys who understand the laws of adoption in Tennessee. Rest assured that our legal services are always free of charge. In fact, there is never any cost for expectant or birth parent services at Adoptions With Love.

Choose an Adoptive Family

If you choose to work with Adoptions With Love, you will have the opportunity to choose an adoptive family for your baby.  After listening to your wishes and vision of the perfect family, we will send you detailed photo albums and personal profiles of the waiting families that best meet your needs. Once you choose a family, you can speak to them through email, phone, or meet them in-person. This is up to you.

No matter which family you choose, rest assured that you will be placing your baby in a safe and secure home. All of the families at Adoptions With Love have gone through an extensive home study process as well as a series of background checks to ensure the safety and stability of their home.

Make a Post-Placement Plan

At Adoptions With Love, you will also have the option to establish a plan for ongoing communication with your child’s adoptive family, following the adoption. This level of contact (if you would like any at all) is completely up to you. Whether you choose an open adoption, semi-open adoption, or closed adoption plan, our trained social workers will help you think through your options for post-adoption contact with your child, his or her adoptive family, and our adoption agency professionals.

Remember that adoption does not end with the placement of your baby. As a birth mother choosing adoption, it is important to seek out ongoing support. Adoptions With Love offers confidential counseling services at no cost to you. We can help you navigate emotions, communication, and relationships after the adoption takes place. We will always be here for you.

Contact Amy, Nancy, Claudia, Nellie, or Amelia today at 1-800-722-7731 for more information on adoption in Tennessee. You may also text us confidentially at 617-777-0072.

This is our State by State Adoption blog series. To learn about the different areas we service, or to find the specific steps of adoption in your state, please visit adoptionswithlove.org/areas-we-service.


State by State: How to Place Your Baby for Adoption in Nebraska

Are you facing an unplanned pregnancy?  Right now, you may feel overwhelmed by the many emotions you are experiencing.  You want to provide the best possible home for your baby, but do not feel ready to raise a child at this time.  If you are considering adoption for your baby, you may not know where to begin or how to start the process. Take a deep breath.  One of the most important things to know as an expectant mother in Nebraska is that you do not have to walk this journey alone.  There are supportive, compassionate adoption professionals in your area who can help you explore your unplanned pregnancy options and guide you in making an adoption plan.

The decision to place your baby for adoption is a decision made with love and thoughtfulness.  It is one of the most selfless and long-term choices you can make for your child, and should always be well-informed.  Before choosing to make an adoption plan, it is essential to do your research:  Ask questions.  Assess all your options.  Learn about the steps you need to take to place your baby for adoption in Nebraska.  As a licensed adoption agency serving Nebraska, Adoptions With Love can help.  We are here to listen to you, educate you on adoption in Nebraska, and help you make the most positive, informed decision for you and your baby.

Adoptions With Love has great relationships with expert adoption counselors and attorneys licensed in your state.  If you need help placing your baby for adoption in Nebraska, know that you can always contact us.  We partner with experienced counselors and trusted adoption attorneys across your state. To help you get started, we have also outlined some of the steps you must take to place your baby for adoption in Nebraska below:

1. Choose and Meet with a Trusted Adoption Professional

The first and perhaps most essential step in the adoption process is choosing the right adoption professional  to guide you through the process.  There are many adoption professionals in Nebraska who can help, but it is important to find the people  that you trust, who are  reputable, compassionate, and that will listen to your needs.  Choose  adoption professionals  that will discuss your many options with you, adoption and beyond, and that will respect any choice you make.  The right adoption professionals  will stand by your side throughout the entire adoption experience – as you prepare for the adoption, after you place your baby, and throughout your life.   These counselors should always be available to you at any time of day, any day of the week, to help you through the adoption process or just to talk.

2. Decide on the Adoption Plan that is Right for You

Open adoption is a positive choice available to expectant/birth mothers in Nebraska. This means that if you choose to work with an open adoption agency, you will have the option to continue a relationship with your child’s adoptive family following his or her placement. This may involve receiving pictures of your child over the years, or even having monthly Skype or FaceTime meetings with your child and his or her adoptive parents. As an expectant/birth mother, you can decide if you want contact, and how much contact, you are comfortable having with the adoptive family.

At Adoptions With Love, we understand open adoption is not right for everyone. Here, you can choose from an open adoption, semi-open adoption, or a closed adoption plan.  One of our compassionate adoption counselors will explain each option to you and, if you would like, can help you personally design the type of adoption plan that fits your wants and needs. At AWL, you can also select and meet an adoptive family for your baby, if you wish.

3. Select a Loving Adoptive Family

Many expectant/birth parents find peace of mind in choosing the adoptive family for their baby. If you would like to make this loving choice, your open adoption agency will share with you a selection of prospective Adoptive Parent Profiles.  These family profiles, consisting of letters and photos, will help you get to know each waiting family and choose the best match for your baby.  At Adoptions With Love, we will listen carefully to your wishes and show you the waiting families that can meet all you envision for your child.

No matter which adoptive family you choose, know that your child will be safe, secure, and loved.  All waiting adoptive families at Adoptions With Love are thoroughly screened and evaluated through an extensive home study process, as well as a series of background checks to ensure each family is fit and ready to raise a child.

4. Understand the Laws of Adoption in Nebraska

Adoption laws vary state to state.  In Nebraska, you cannot sign any legal adoption documents until at least 48 hours after the baby is born.  This will give you more time to spend with your baby and think about your choice.  Adoption is a lifelong decision, and we want to ensure you are comfortable and confident that it is the best one for you and your child.

If you decide to place your baby for adoption in Nebraska, it is important to find an agency that is knowledgeable, experienced, and specifically trained in the laws of your area.  If you choose to work with Adoptions With Love, for example, you can meet with our attorney partners who are experts in Nebraska adoptions.  They can meet with you – wherever you are – to help walk you through the legal adoption process.

Adoptions With Love’s legal services are always free of charge.  In fact, all of the birth parent services at our agency are free of cost.  We can provide financial assistance for pregnancy-related expenses needed before, during, and up to six weeks after your baby’s adoption, such as:

  • Complete counseling
  • Help designing your adoption plan
  • Assistance finding quality medical care
  • Housing assistance 
  • Financial assistance
  • Legal assistance

5. Pursue Continued Adoption Support

Adoption is a lifelong journey full of new, delicate feelings and relationships.  You do not have to navigate these alone.  Adoptions With Love can help you manage any difficult emotions or adoption relationships that arise post-placement.  We extend our free ongoing, confidential counseling services to you.  We can also mediate any open contact you wish to have with your child and his or her family down the road.

At Adoptions With Love, we want you to know how selfless and brave you are for making this choice.  Know that we are always here for you.  Whether you are pregnant or have already given birth to your baby, it is never too late to start your adoption in Nebraska.  Call us at 800-722-7731 or text us confidentially at 617-777-0072.

This is our State by State Adoption blog series.  To learn about the different areas we service, or to find the specific steps of adoption in your state, please visit adoptionswithlove.org/areas-we-service.


The Adoption Process for Birth Mothers: A Mini-Guide

If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption, you may be feeling scared and overwhelmed. You have a lot of unanswered questions about the process, but with all the information available, may not know where to start. It is important to know that you are not alone. With a little guidance and support, you will carve the best possible path for your baby. Adoptions With Love can help. We have created this mini-guide to help expectant and birth mothers like you navigate the adoption process.

Contact an adoption agency.

Before you start the adoption process, it is important that you first understand the choice of adoption and what it means to place a child for adoption. It is also important to explore your other options, your feelings, and your needs before making this decision. This is where an adoption agency can help. By working with an adoption agency and a professional counselor, you will gain a support system. You will be assigned a trained, compassionate social worker who will educate you on your options and help you make the best possible choice. If you would like to move forward with adoption, your social worker will help you make a plan that meets your needs and wishes for your baby.

The right adoption agency will be there for you from the very beginning of the adoption process – as you prepare for the adoption, after placement, and even throughout your life. As an expectant/birth mother, you deserve this unending support. Above all, the right agency will never pressure you into a decision. Rather, its staff will educate you on your options and respect any choice you make. This is a promise that Adoptions With Love makes to you. Here, we believe an informed decision is the best decision when it comes to you and your child.

Start an adoption plan.

Once you have made the choice of adoption, your next step will be to sit down with your adoption counselor and start to make a plan. Together, we will plan for the remainder of your pregnancy, which might include finding a quality, compassionate doctor and ensuring you receive prenatal care. If you are in your final weeks of pregnancy and unable to work, we can help you obtain housing, maternity clothes, and assist with other expenses as needed.

We will also help you create an adoption hospital plan that helps you feel comfortable. A hospital plan is a document that details exactly how you want your hospital stay and labor to go, including who you want to be in the delivery room and how much time you would like to spend with your baby. Adoptions With Love will also help you get in touch with the birth father (if known and safe), discuss the adoption laws in your state, and schedule ongoing counseling sessions with you.

Choose the type of adoption you wish to have.

When making your adoption plan, you can decide how much openness you would like with your child’s adoptive family. There are typically three levels (or three types of relationships) you can choose from: open, semi-open, or closed adoption.

An open adoption is a type of relationship in which a birth mother has direct contact with her child’s adoptive family. This level of contact is based on your comfort level. With open adoption, you can choose to talk with the adoptive parents over email or phone, or simply receive letters and pictures. You may also desire occasional, in-person visits with your baby. This can all be outlined in an open adoption agreement. As an expectant/birth mother, you can also choose to have a semi-open adoption plan, which involves some communication but is mediated through an adoption agency. For example, if you feel you are not ready to speak with the adoptive family, you can have them send letters and pictures to Adoptions With Love. We will keep these on hand for you, for whenever you are ready. If you feel that meeting the family is too overwhelming, or if you prefer more privacy, you can choose a closed adoption and leave the rest of your plan up to us. These choices are yours to make.

Select an adoptive family for your baby.

Adoptions With Love is an agency that will help you design and adoption plan that works for you and your child. Here, you will have the option to choose a family for your baby. We invite you to tell us all that you are looking for in an adoptive family. For example, if you want your child to have siblings or a two-parent household, you can share these wishes with us. If you would then like to choose a family, Adoptions With Love will send you several profiles of families that are a good match.

Each of the waiting families at Adoptions With Love has created a special “Adoptive Parent Profile” for you. This is basically an album that allows you to get to know who these families are, what they look like, and why they would like to adopt. Once you choose a family for your baby, you will have the opportunity to speak to them through email, phone, or meet them in-person if you wish. Though this is not required, meeting the family tends to give expectant/birth mothers great peace of mind.

No matter what family you choose, you can rest assured your baby will be placed in a loving, safe and secure home. All waiting adoptive families at Adoptions With Love are carefully screened through a series of personal interviews and background checks. They have also undergone an extensive home study process to ensure the safety and stability of their home.

Prepare for child birth.

Before your baby is born, you will have gone over your hospital stay and delivery plan with your adoption counselor. Once you go into labor, it is important that you notify her immediately. She will contact the adoptive family and meet you at the hospital to ensure everything goes as planned.

After delivery, you can spend as much (or as little) time as you would like with your baby. You can choose to feed, hold, and name your baby if you wish. Typically, birth mothers choosing adoption will sign any legal paperwork before leaving the hospital. However, you can take your time with this decision. In all states, no legal adoption documents can be signed until after the child is born. Adoptions With Love will guide you through the necessary legal steps and will be there to support you throughout the finalization process.

Have a post-adoption plan.

Adoption does not end with the placement of your baby. It also does not have to mean goodbye. With Adoptions With Love, you will always have the option to keep in touch with your child’s adoptive family. If you choose to make an open or semi-open adoption plan with us, we will write out a detailed agreement for post-adoption contact (how and how often you will communicate with one another).

After the adoption is finalized, we also encourage you to attend ongoing counseling sessions. Adoption is a lifelong and emotional journey. You do not have to go through it alone. Adoptions With Love offers continuous, confidential counseling services at no cost to you. We can help you navigate any emotions, communication, and adoption relationships that arise after your baby is placed. We will always be here for you.

Whether you just found out you are pregnant, are in your final trimester, or have already given birth to your baby, it is not too late to make an adoption plan. Contact Adoptions With Love toll-free at 1-800-722-7731 or text us confidentially at 617-777-0072 for more information about the adoption process for birth mothers. If you just discovered an unplanned pregnancy, we also encourage you to download our free, month-by-month guide to adoption below.

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The Many Reasons for Choosing Adoption

Choosing adoption is a loving, yet lifelong decision. As an expectant/birth parent, it is important to know you are making an adoption plan for the right reasons. In this article, we will explore some of the many reasons an expectant/birth mother might choose adoption as a positive alternative for her baby. We will also walk you through some of the many reasons a family will choose to adopt.

Reasons Why Birth Parents Choose Adoption:

There are many reasons why a woman might choose to make an adoption plan. In most cases, it is because she is not in the right time or the right place to parent – she may feel too young, in school, or not ready at this stage of her life to have a baby. She may be lacking financial stability, emotional support, or a safe home to care for her child. Often a woman is parenting several children on her own, has an unintended pregnancy, and makes an adoption plan because it in the best interests of ALL her children. Sometimes, major life events occur and make it very difficult to raise a child. Most of the time, the reason is lies in wanting to provide the best possible life for her baby.

If you are considering adoption for your child, take some time to ask yourself “why.” Know that everyone has different reasons for choosing adoption, and yours will be completely unique to you. Below we have compiled some of the top reasons why expectant/birth parents choose adoption:

  1. They are not ready to become parents just yet – Though pregnancy can happen at any reproductive age, unintended pregnancies are most common among young women from ages 18 to 25. Women of this age are typically in college, working full- or part-time, or graduating from school and looking for a steady job. While situations do vary, these years are usually a transitional time. It is when most young women are starting to make life changes and decisions regarding their futures. A young mother may feel she is not ready to parent a child, thinking her age will put both her and her child at a disadvantage. Sometimes, expectant/birth mothers have other goals they want to accomplish before becoming a parent. This is completely normal.
  2. They cannot afford to raise a child – There is no doubt that being a parent is expensive. Today, raising a child through age 18 costs parents an average of $233,610. This does not include any expenses before the birth, such as prenatal care. Many women will choose adoption because they are not financially prepared to support a child, or another child if they are already raising one or several children. Some are facing financial hardships and know they cannot provide adequate food, child care, and the basic necessities (such as diapers) their child needs to grow. By choosing adoption, they can ensure their child’s needs are met or exceeded. Adoption is completely free for expectant/birth mothers, and uninsured maternity-related expenses are typically covered for those who make an adoption plan.
  1. They want their child to have the best – Expectant/birth parents often say their main reason for choosing adoption is to give their baby the best possible life they can give. By choosing adoption, they can ensure that their child’s basic needs will be met and that he or she will be granted so many other things, too, such as proper healthcare, a stable home in a safe neighborhood, and a good education. Expectant / birth mothers want their child to have many opportunities in life that they are not in a position to give. Adoption allows expectant/birth parents to realize their dreams for their child, and to give their child a future beyond what they can provide at the time.
  2. Their home life and/or relationship is unstable – Some expectant/birth parents do not have support from their families or from the father of their babies. Some have unstable, shaky home lives or live in an environment that is not adequate to raise a child. If this sounds familiar, know that you are not alone. Adoptions With Love extends our support and our services to you.
  3. They are already struggling to raise a child – Most women who make an adoption plan are already parenting children. Some lack the appropriate resources and finances to raise another baby. Some feel that parenting another child will affect their ability to care for the children they already have. As a result, they choose to make an adoption plan.

Reasons Why Adoptive Parents Choose Adoption:

Adoptions With Love understands how important it is to find a loving and stable home for your baby. We know that you want to find an adoptive family that will not only provide for your child, but also support him or her financially, mentally, and emotionally over the years.

We want to assure you that the waiting families at Adoptions With Love have come to us fully ready and able to commit to a child for life. They all dream of becoming parents and raising a child with all the love and care they can possibly give. However, for the majority of our families, parenting would otherwise be impossible without adoption. Here are the top reasons families choose to grow through adoption:

  1. Infertility – The majority of couples who choose adoption are infertile. This means that they are unable to conceive a baby on their own. Some couples will seek medical treatments, such as in vitro fertilization (IVF), however, only 30 to 35 percent of women under 35-years-old will become pregnant though IVF. These chances grow smaller as women grow older.
  2. Pregnancy complications – Some families choose adoption when they wish to become parents, but are at high risk for pregnancy complications. They may have had serious difficulties during a previous pregnancy and do not want to risk the experience again. For these people, adoption is a safer option and offers greater peace of mind.
  3. Same-gender couples – Many gay and lesbian couples, especially those that are married, will choose adoption as a way to complete their families.
  4. Single parents – There are many single women who do not have a Mr. Right, but still wish to become parents with all their hearts. The single parents at Adoptions With Love are fully ready to become parents: having stable, successful careers, safe home environments, and flexible schedules to meet the needs of their children.

Adoptions With Love helps expectant/birth parents nationwide make the best possible choices for their children. We can help you work through your reasons for considering adoption, explore all of your pregnancy options, and design the perfect adoption plan. Call us toll-free at 800-722-7731 or text us confidentially at 617-777-0072 to speak with one of our compassionate counselors.


State by State: How to Place Your Baby for Adoption in Maine

Are you pregnant and considering adoption? Discovering an unplanned pregnancy is an emotional, overwhelming time for many women. Right now, you may not know where you can go for help or who to call for support. You know that you want to provide a loving home for your child, but are unsure how to start the adoption process. You are not alone. If you are an expectant mother living in Maine, know that Adoptions With Love is here for you.

Adoptions With Love is a licensed, non-profit adoption agency helping expectant/birth parents nationwide find the best possible homes for their children. For over 30 years, we have been building relationships with expert adoption counselors and attorneys licensed in Maine. If you need help placing your baby for adoption in Maine, you can always contact us. Our trusted Maine adoption agency partner and attorney can help you explore your options, understand the laws in your area, and make an adoption plan that is tailored to your wishes and needs.

Before starting your adoption plan, however, we recommend doing your research. Adoption is one of the most loving and long-term decisions you can make for your child, and should always be well-informed. Ask questions.  Learn about the steps you need to take to place your baby for adoption in Maine. Prepare for what is ahead. As a reputable adoption agency serving Maine, Adoptions With Love can help you navigate the adoption process. We will listen to you, answer your questions, educate you on adoption in Maine, and help you make the most positive, informed decision for you and your baby.

Whether you are facing an unplanned pregnancy or have already given birth to your baby, we extend our support to you. To help get you started, we have created this mini guide to making an adoption plan in Maine:

1. Choose an adoption agency that you trust.

Every adoption journey starts by choosing the right agency to guide you through the process. There are many  adoption professionals in Maine who can help you, but it is important to find a licensed, reputable agency that you trust. How will you know you are choosing the right adoption agency?

The right adoption agency will have staff who listen to your wants and needs, who are willing to discuss all your options with you, and who promise to respect any choice that you make. Look for an agency that will stand by your side and support you throughout the entire adoption experience – not only as you prepare for the adoption, but also throughout your life. Your adoption agency should also be accessible to you at any time of day, any day of the week, to answer your questions and help you design the perfect adoption plan.

2. Decide the type of adoption you would like your child to have.

If you choose to work with an open adoption agency serving Maine, you will have the option to create an open, semi-open, or closed adoption plan. With an open adoption, you can:

  • Choose an adoptive family for your baby
  • Meet and get to know the family for your baby
  • Keep in touch with your child’s family over the years
  • Receive letters and pictures of your child as he or she grows

Many expectant/birth mothers choose to create an adoption plan with some level of openness, because it gives them peace of mind to see and know that their child is doing well. If you would like to make an open or semi-open adoption plan, you can decide the amount of contact you would like with your child’s family, if any at all.  At Adoptions With love, we will help you personally design the type of adoption plan that best fits your wants and needs: you can choose an open adoption, semi-open adoption, or a closed adoption plan. One of our adoption counselors will explain each option and, if you would like, help you create your ideal adoption plan.

3. Select a loving adoptive family.

Whether you create a fully open adoption plan or a more private adoption plan with no contact, you will always have the option to select a family for your baby at Adoptions With Love. If you would like to make this loving choice, we will send you a selection of prospective Adoptive Parent Profiles. These family profiles, consisting of letters and photos, will help you get to know each waiting family and choose the best match for your baby. At Adoptions With Love, we will listen carefully to your requests and show you the families that best meet your wishes for your child. Once you choose an adoptive family, you will have the option to speak with them through email, phone, or meet them in-person. This is completely up to you.

No matter which adoptive family you choose, you can rest assured that your child will be placed in a loving, safe, and secure home. All our waiting families have been thoroughly screened and interviewed by a licensed social worker, have undergone a series of federal background checks, and are fully able and ready to raise a child for life.

4. Understand the adoption laws in Maine.

Adoption laws vary state to state. That is why it is so important to work with an agency who has adoption attorneys specifically trained in your home state. If you choose to work with Adoptions With Love, you can meet with our attorney partners who are experts in Maine adoptions. They can meet with you – wherever you are – to help walk you through the legal adoption process.

Adoptions With Love’s legal services are always free of charge. You can rest assured that there is never a cost for the expectant or birth parent services at our agency. In Maine, licensed, private adoption agencies like us are permitted to provide financial assistance for some pregnancy-related expenses needed before, during, and for weeks after your baby’s adoption, such as:

  • Complete counseling services
  • Help designing your adoption plan
  • Assistance finding quality medical care
  • Housing assistance 
  • Financial assistance
  • Legal assistance
  • Ongoing Contact

5. Receive ongoing adoption support.

Adoption is a lifelong journey full of new, sensitive relationships and emotions. Remember that Adoptions With Love is for you, even after your baby is placed. We can help you navigate any feelings, adoption relationships, or open communication over the years. As part of your post-adoption services, we extend free ongoing, confidential counseling services. We can also help you create an open adoption agreement with the adoptive family, and mediate any contact you might have with your child’s family down the road.

Whether you are pregnant or have already given birth to your baby, it is never too late to start your adoption in Maine.  Call us at 800-722-7731 or text us confidentially at 617-777-0072 to learn more.

This is our State by State Adoption blog series.  To learn about the different areas we service, or to find the specific steps of adoption in your state, please visit adoptionswithlove.org/areas-we-service.