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Your Rights as an Expectant/Birth Mother Considering Adoption

Choosing adoption for your child does not mean you are immediately relinquishing all of your rights as his or her birth mother. In fact, you still maintain many rights throughout the adoption process.

If you are currently considering adoption for your baby, it is important for you to understand all of these rights. Adoptions With Love has compiled the following list to help guide you in making a fully informed decision regarding adoption. Please take the time to review and do not hesitate to contact us with any questions.

As an expectant/birth mother considering adoption, you have:

The Right to Make Your Own Decision, Free From Pressure or Coercion. 

One of the most important things to remember in considering your options is that you, as an expectant/birth mother, have the right to make a choice free from outside influence. No one, not family, friends, nor the father of your baby, can force you into making a decision you do not want to make. This is your choice.

The Right to Your Body and Any Decisions Regarding Your or Your Baby’s Health.

As an expectant mother considering adoption, you have complete say in your pregnancy and all rights to control your body during your pregnancy. Right now, you are the person who truly knows what is best for you and your child. How you and your baby are cared for is therefore determined by you. Once the baby is born, you, as the biological mother, still maintain the right to make all decisions regarding your care and that of your baby, right up until the adoption process is completed.

The Right to Change Your Mind.

It is also important to know that no decision you make before the birth of your baby will be binding or limit you in any way. While laws do vary state to state, you have the right to change your mind about adoption or parenting up until the birth of your baby.

Depending on where you live, you will have a certain allotted time after your baby’s birth to make a decision about adoption. Some states also allow you to revoke your consent to adoption days after the papers have been signed. This is not always the case, so if you have questions about the specific laws in your area, please contact us.

The Right to Design an Open Adoption Plan.

Using a licensed adoption agency gives you the right to be a part of every phase of the adoption process. This means that as a birth mother, you have a right to participate in designing the adoption plan that works best at this time. You may choose to create an open adoption plan, which will give you the right to stay updated and/or in contact with your child and the adoptive family.

You may choose to participate in Adoption With Love’s letter and picture program, which gives birth mothers the opportunity to receive personal updates from the adoptive family.

The Right to Choose and Meet an Adoptive Family.                            

As an expectant/birth mother, you have the right to choose adoptive parents to raise your child. If you are still considering adoption, you also have the right to view several waiting adoptive families’ profiles. . Once you have chosen a possible adoptive family, you have the opportunity to meet them in person. These in-person meetings will give you the opportunity to ask questions of the adoptive family and may help you form a relationship. This connection may give you confidence that you are choosing a loving, caring family for your child (for more information on choosing an adoptive family for your baby, download our free guide, here).

The Right to Confidentiality.

If you choose to place your baby for adoption, know that you have the right to complete confidentiality. Open adoption is not right for everyone. You may feel more comfortable keeping your information private. Rest assured that no one—not even an adoption agency—has the right to share your personal information without consent.

The Right to Financial Assistance.

Choosing to place your baby for adoption means that you will have the right to request financial assistance for pregnancy-related expenses. At Adoptions With Love, we want to ensure that you have the proper, quality medical care. We can assist with hospital bills as well as pre-natal costs.

You also have the right to other financial assistance through our agency, such as transportation, maternity clothing, and housing assistance. We can assist you with these expenses in the third trimester of your pregnancy.

The Right to Counseling.

The adoption process can be overwhelming, but you always have the right to on-going support. As a part of our free services for birth mothers, Adoptions With Love offers professional, compassionate counseling during and following your pregnancy should you choose adoption. Our team of professionals can help guide you through the adoption process. Our goal is always to be there for you, before, during, and after the birth of your child.

The Right to Respect.

Adoption is a courageous act that gives your child a life beyond what you can provide at this time. If you choose adoption, know that you ALWAYS have the right to respect and dignity. You have the right to be proud of your decision and the right to be confident that your decision was the best option for you and your baby. This is not an easy decision to make. It takes bravery to choose adoption, and you deserve every ounce of admiration.

To learn more about your rights as a birth parent, please call Amy, Nancy, Amelia, and Claudia toll-free at 1-800-722-7731.

5 Questions to Ask Before Making an Open Adoption Plan

If you have decided that adoption is right for you and your baby, it is important to know about the possibilities of open adoption. An experienced open adoption agency can help you design a flexible plan that is completely tailored to your needs, hopes and wishes.

You may have many questions when beginning your open adoption plan, as this plan will need to meet the needs of both you and your child as the years pass. As you begin, take a step back and carefully consider your present situation. How might open adoption impact your current lifestyle? Then try to think about the future. How will an open adoption plan affect your own life goals? How might it affect your child, as he or she grows and begins to understand the adoption process?

  • What is your ideal adoption plan? This is probably one of the most important questions an expectant/birth mother can ask herself when beginning the open adoption process. Close your eyes and picture your life over the next few years. After your baby is placed in a new and loving home, do you see yourself staying updated on how he or she is growing? Do you see yourself keeping in contact with the adoptive parents? Try to picture your life five, ten, twenty years from now. Would you be comfortable with your child calling you to talk more openly about the adoption?
  • What sort of family do I want for my baby? In an open adoption plan, you are able to choose the parents who will raise your baby, and we welcome you to be involved in this positive choice. Consider your ideal family. Where do they live? Do they have extended family? What are their interests and hobbies? Are there certain values you want your child to possess that can be found in the right adoptive family? Once you have a picture in your mind of a family for your baby, it will be time to start your research. An open adoption agency can help you research adoptive families in depth by providing you with extensive profile books of each waiting family that may be a good fit based on your wishes. If you would like, you also have the opportunity to meet and develop a relationship with this family before your baby is born and as the years continue. This is completely up to you. In an open adoption, your possibilities for this relationship are flexible—but know that every waiting family at Adoptions With Love is willing to build this connection if you want it. It is also important to note that each waiting family at Adoptions With Love is carefully screened.
  • Do I want my child to know about me? How much do I want him or her to know? A huge part of deciding whether open adoption is right for you lies in how much you want your baby to know. In a closed adoption, no identifying information is revealed to your child, or to your child’s adoptive family. In a semi-open adoption, only what you want them to know will be disclosed. In a fully open adoption, your child will be able to contact you according to your contract, and will know both your first and last name at your own discretion.
  • What is my own comfort level regarding openness? Your next step will be to decide how much contact you will have with your child, and how much you can see yourself having after the placement takes place. What forms of communication will you be most comfortable enacting? Once you determine this, you will be able to consider how this contact will occur. Will you keep in touch with your child’s family via phone calls or email? Will you schedule yearly visits with your child and his or her adoptive family?
  • Do I want to meet my child in person? If so, how often? If you decide that you do desire to see your child face-to-face, there are various ways you can go about it. One question to ask yourself is how exactly do you envision these meetings going? Do you want to schedule periodic visits to your child’s new home? Who do you want to be present at the meetings? You can schedule these meetings with your child’s adoptive parents initially. Some birth and adoptive parents decide it is best to have a third-party mediator present at these meetings, and one of the compassionate counselors at Adoptions With Love can guide the conversation.

As an expectant/birth mother, you can work directly with an agency and potential adoptive parents to decide what is best for your baby. The frequency of communication and visits (if you choose to have them) will be decided based on your desires, as well as the feelings of everyone else involved. Only you know what kind of adoption plan will work best for you and your child. We encourage you to ask yourself these five important questions as you begin your plan. Most importantly, we encourage you to be completely honest with your answers. Only then will you decide if open adoption is the right choice for you.

For more questions about open adoption, as well as how to begin your open adoption plan, please download our free guide, a Guide to Open Adoption. Our team of adoption professionals also welcomes you to contact us at any time of day for any further answers on open or closed adoption. Call us toll-free at 1-800-722-7731, or text us confidentially at 1-617-777-0072. We look forward to hearing from you!

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November is National Adoption Month

Happy National Adoption Month!

This November marks the 20th anniversary of National Adoption Awareness Month.

November is a time for giving thanks. It is a time for family, love, and celebration. This National Adoption Month, we thank you for allowing us to be a part of your adoption journey and we invite you to celebrate all of the lifelong connections that have been made through adoption.

We devote this month to the courageous birth mothers who have made the selfless choice to give their child a future they are not able to provide at the time of birth. We also dedicate this month to the loving adoptive parents who provided a loving, stable and secure life for their children. We celebrate the adoptive parents that relate to their child’s story with empathy, and who understand the brave, selfless and courageous decision the birth parents made for their child’s future. Most of all, we celebrate the adopted children around the world who continue to fill our hearts with their stories, day-in and day-out.

National Adoption Awareness Month is about the celebration of adoption, but it is also about educating others regarding the positive aspects of adoption. This month, Adoptions With Love hopes to raise awareness about adoption, adoptive families, and the children in need of loving, permanent homes. We invite you to join us. If you would like to share your adoption story with us or with others, please email our team at

How did National Adoption Awareness Month begin?

In 1976, the governor of Massachusetts, Michael Dukakis, announced a statewide Adoption Awareness Week.  It was not until November 1984, however, that President Ronald Reagan declared the first National Adoption Week, giving special acknowledgment to those who are rebuilding families all over the country through adoption. He proclaimed:

“National Adoption Week gives us an opportunity to reaffirm our commitment to give every child waiting to be adopted the chance to become part of a family. During this Thanksgiving season, let us work to encourage community acceptance and support for adoption… Most importantly, let us pay tribute to those special couples who have opened their homes and hearts to adopted children, forming the bonds of love that we call the family.”

Families have long stood as the pillars of our communities and children have long been our highest hope for the future. President Clinton knew this when in 1995; he expanded Adoption Awareness Week to the entire month of November, which has continued now for twenty years. Clinton affirmed:

“For many people across the United States, adoption provides a means for building and strengthening families. It places children into loving, permanent homes where they can flourish and grow up to become happy, healthy, productive members of our national community. Adoption also enables adults to experience the unique joys of parenthood.”

What is the meaning of National Adoption Month 2015?

This year, National Adoption Awareness Month is focused on our nation’s population of older youth in foster care who are still in need of a loving, supportive family. Children usually enter the foster care system when their parents are unable to care for them. They are often neglected in this system, and left only hoping for the love and stability they deserve. Each year, 23,000 youth are released from foster homes without having a permanent family living arrangement to fall back on. This month, campaigns will be made in efforts to move children from the foster care system to a secure and lasting home.

How can we help?

Making a private adoption plan is one way to prevent children from ever entering the foster care system. That is why Adoptions With Love is committed to working with expectant/birth parents as they make a choice for their child. By helping them to design an adoption plan, we can ensure that their child will be loved unconditionally.

This choice is not an easy decision to make. That is why National Adoption Month honors those birth parents that have made this inspirational choice to design an adoption plan for their baby. By working with adoption professionals to create this plan, expectant/birth mothers are able to choose an adoptive family for their baby, secure their child’s future, and give their child the life that he or she deserves.

Open adoption is one way that many birth mothers ease their feelings about adoption. Open adoption allows them to maintain contact with the adoptive parents of their child and stay aware of the child’s growth. We would love to hear about your open adoption plan, and how it has developed over the years.

How can you help?

Adoption gives children in need love and opportunity. Those that have not been touched by adoption may not fully understand the adoption process, how it works, and what can come of it. We welcome you to share your thoughts, feelings, and stories about the adoption journey, to help others see the benefits of the adoption.

Let us celebrate these 30 days of November together. If you would like more information on National Adoption Awareness Month, or how you can get involved, contact us directly at 1-800-722-7731.

We look forward to hearing from you!

Designing an Open Adoption Plan: You Have Options

The term “Open Adoption,” means different things to different families. The most important thing to remember as you design your adoption plan is that you, as an expectant/birth mother, have many options.

We determined in our previous blog post that the definition of open adoption can vary person to person. One form of open adoption may include two families exchanging mediated letter and photo updates, such as the ones through Adoptions With Love’s letter and picture program. At the other end of the spectrum, a birth mother may desire to visit her child and his or her adoptive family several times a year. Most open adoptions, however, lay somewhere in between. This may include phone calls, texts, emails, contact via social media, and/or face-to-face meetings. Their are numerous possibilities when designing an open adoption plan.

When choosing open adoption at Adoptions With Love, expectant and birth mothers decide their own level of openness. No matter what type of open adoption you choose, know that our experienced staff will help to negotiate an agreement  to ensure that your plan carries on just as you wish.  As time passes, we will work with the birth parents, adoptive parents and the child to renegotiate the agreement always taking into account the best needs of the child. Every waiting family at Adoptions With Love supports some level of openness and is more than willing to walk at your pace. As you begin your open adoption plan, ask yourself what type of relationship will be best for you and your baby. Consider the following:

A fully open adoption entails direct communication between a birth mother and the adoptive family she chooses for her child.. Some of your many options for this direct adoption contact include:

  • Scheduled face-to-face visits: Whether you decide you want to visit your child on his or her birthday, or spend the holidays together, or spend a day with the adoptive family a few times a year. We will detail these type of arrangements in a contract so that you can rest assured these visits will be followed.
  • Direct exchange of letters and pictures: The direct exchange of letters and pictures is a great way for families to stay connected post-placement. You may also choose to exchange these through our agency, where your address will not be revealed (see below).
  • Text messaging, phone calls, or emails: This type of ongoing contact is common in open adoption, and can give birth mothers, adoptive families, and adopted children great peace of mind.
  • Ongoing contact with adoptive parents only: Some birth mothers believe that maintaining contact with their child may be too overwhelming, but still desire to stay connected. As a result, some will choose to continue a relationship with the adoptive parents of their choice.

A semi-open adoption means that an adoption agency will help you stay connected to your child. Your options for a semi-open adoption plan include:

  • Letter and picture updates through an experienced open adoption agency: At Adoptions With Love, all adoptive families submit letters and pictures of their adopted child on a regular basis. If you decide you do not want contact with your child initially, that is okay. We keep these letters and pictures safe in the case that you may want to check in on them someday. At our agency, we believe that adoption stories change and evolve beyond placement. You or your child may have questions over time, and this program will allow you to receive answers as they arise.
  • Mediated emails or phone calls: Our agency is happy to serve as an intermediary and schedule non-identifying phone calls between you and your child and/or your child’s adoptive family. In this case, your phone number will not be revealed. Adoptions With Love can also mediate emails between you and the adoptive family, where we will dedicate one email address to your continued relationship with your child’s adoptive family. Again, no identifying information (like your location or your last name) will be revealed in this contact arrangement.
  • Arranged meetings supervised by a compassionate, non-biased adoption professional: Arranging meetings with an adoptive family, and having a mediator there, can allow birth mothers to communicate freely with their child with the assistance of a trained adoption counselor. If you choose to continue these mediated meetings, you may eventually decide that you desire more of a relationship with your child’s family. These meetings are a good opportunity to discover if developing direct contact is of interest to you and the adoptive family down the road.


Remember, the choice is yours. There is no single adoption plan that will be right for everyone. For more, detailed information on your options in open adoption, please download Adoptions With Love’s Guide to Open Adoption. This guide has been written by our dedicated adoption team to show how beautiful, lifelong relationships can stem from open adoption. We hope it helps expectant and birth mothers decide what type of adoption plan is best for you.


If you have any questions on your adoption options do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-722-7731 or text us confidentially at 617-777-0072. Amy, Nancy, Claudia, and Amelia are available to you at any time, 24/7.

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What is Open Adoption?

The majority of adoptions today involve some level of openness, but what exactly does “open adoption” mean?

Open adoption is an option that expectant/birth mothers will have as they begin to design their adoption plan. This term does not simply refer to one kind of adoption, but rather to the many different ways a birth mother can maintain contact with her child following his or her placement.

If you ask ten people to define “open adoption,” chances are you will receive ten distinct answers. That is because there is no single, universal definition of open adoption.  For one family, an open adoption arrangement may entail the birth mother, child, and adoptive parents getting together once a month. For another family, open adoption may mean that the birth mother and her child exchange letters and pictures, but never meet in person.

To some people, an open adoption will mean that the “identifying information” (first/last name, phone number, mailing address) of a birth mother is available to her child. This means that children in an open adoption arrangement will consistently have the opportunity to reach out to their birth mothers as they grow up, and vice versa. In general, “open adoption” describes the type of adoption relationship in which there is some extent of contact between a birth mother, her child, and her child’s adoptive family. How that contact carries out, however, will differ person to person and plan to plan.

Communication in an open adoption can be structured in the form of emails, telephone calls, and/or in-person visits. If and when a birth mother is ready, Adoptions With Love also offers letter and picture updates of her child, so that she can see just how her baby has grown. The frequency of contact in an open arrangement can be flexible depending on the wants and needs of everyone involved.

Some women who choose an open adoption do not want fully disclosed contact, and believe it best to have only letter and picture updates without ever meeting their child face-to-face. Alternatively, some birth mothers desire to maintain contact with their child, but do not want to reveal any identifying information. A “semi-open” adoption plan allows birth mothers to maintain minimal contact with their child and/or his or her adoptive family.  In many cases, this contact is indirect and mediated through an adoption agency. Adoptions With Love is an open adoption agency, meaning that all of our waiting adoptive families have agreed to at least a semi-open adoption. They are willing to work with you to design a plan that will be most advantageous to you and your baby for years to come.

Ultimately, open adoption may not be right for everyone. A closed adoption plan may be best for you, and that is OK.  The “right” plan is the plan that is right for YOU. If you are here because you are considering an open adoption arrangement, understand that you, as an expectant/birth mother have choices. You can make the decision on what your adoption plan will look like, and how much contact (if any) you will have with an adoptive family over time. Our team at Adoptions With Love welcomes you to tell us all about your ideal adoption plan, so that we can get you started on giving you and your baby the best possible life moving forward. This is a new beginning of a lifelong journey, and lifelong relationships if you wish for them.

Instead of asking what open adoption means, ask yourself what open adoption will mean to you?

To learn more about the different levels of open adoption, download our newest eBook, A Guide to Open Adoption. If you would like to chat with one of our adoption professionals about your options, or to see if open adoption is right for you, please feel free to call us at any time of day, any day of the week at 1-800-722-7731. We are available to help and guide you every step of the way.

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Open Minds, Open Hearts, Open Adoption: Infographic

Adoption is a brave act filled with love that is constantly growing and expanding. Adoption is not something to hide. Today, it is one of the most courageous, caring decisions a mother who is not ready to parent her baby can do for her child.

If you are pregnant and know you are not yet ready to raise a child, we admire you for considering the positive option of adoption. Adoption is a lifelong journey, and choosing to place your baby in a new and loving home is only the beginning.  As an expectant mother, you have many options to consider as you begin your adoption journey.

The beauty of today’s adoption model is that there is no one-size-fits-all adoption plan. Your plan will be unique to you. With the help of experienced, compassionate adoption professionals, you can design a plan that takes into consideration both your needs and the needs of your baby.

Many expectant/birth mothers today choose to create an “open adoption” plan to keep in contact with their child and his or her adoptive family over the years. Open adoption allows expectant/birth mothers to choose adoptive parents for their baby, develop a relationship with that family, and remain a part of their child’s life.

Before deciding if open adoption is right for you, it is important to fully understand how an open adoption works, and the where it can take you and your child. Adoptions With Love has created this infographic so that you can learn how positive an open adoption experience can be.

Today, 95 percent of licensed adoption agencies offer open adoption plans. Adoptions With Love has been helping expectant/birthmothers make thoughtful, loving adoption plans for nearly 30 years and we are ready to begin an open adoption plan with you.

Read on to learn more about the open adoption experience, and the keys to maintaining a successful open adoption plan. For more information about your options in designing your own plan, contact us at 1-800-722-7731, text us at 1-617-777-0072, or download our full Guide to Open Adoption here.







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Agency Adoption vs. Identified Adoption

Many mothers that are considering adoption believe that an identified adoption is the only way that they are truly able to choose a family for their baby. This is not the case. When working with a private, licensed adoption agency like Adoptions With Love, expectant parents like you are in the driver’s seat. Your adoption plan is one hundred percent your own, and only you can make the best choice for you and your baby. As an agency, our mission is to help you choose a family that is well equipped, fully able and completely prepared to raise your child. Adoptions With Love works with prospective adoptive families that are waiting to lovingly adopt.

When you are exploring the positive choice to place your baby for adoption, you will have to decide how you would like to design your adoption plan. As an expectant/birth mother, you have choices. In many states, you have the option to find a family for your baby independently, and go through the adoption process on your own without any further guidance or assistance. You also have the option to work alongside licensed and experienced professionals at an adoption agency to find the perfect home for your baby. Through a private agency like Adoptions With Love, an entire team of compassionate adoption experts will support you as you select a family for your baby and navigate the entire process together. No matter which path you choose, know that there will be many loving families wanting and waiting to adopt your child. Before you make this decision, consider how each plan will affect you and which will be best for your baby in the long run.

An identified adoption is typically arranged directly by expectant/birth parents and prospective adoptive parents. Expectant families are often attracted to an identified adoption because it appears to be a quick, flexible alternative to working with an adoption agency.  Many choose this method because they want complete control over their adoption plan.

The majority of these identified adoption searches begin on the Internet. Couples looking to adopt a baby often place online advertisements, post in online databases, or create their own websites marketing themselves to expectant/birth parents. Expectant/birth parents can similarly use online resources to find prospective adoptive families. Some simply “google” families for their babies, but may not be aware of the potential dangers of this online search.

If you are considering an identified adoption, take precautions. What waiting adoptive families say about themselves on the Internet is not always true. There is really no way to verify the accuracy of the information they provide in their profiles. Most online services do not validate or meet with these families at all before the adoption takes place.

Before going ahead and choosing a family on your own, ask yourself how comfortable you are entrusting your baby to a family that may not have been verified or screened.  While there are laws that regulate all adoptions, they are not always followed. Adoption laws are in place to protect everyone involved in an adoption plan and to keep the child in a safe and secure environment. There is a process of receiving approval from the government, and a home study must be performed to verify that an adoptive family is emotionally, physically and financially prepared to adopt a baby.  Background criminal checks and child abuse checks are completed and reviews of the family’s medical and financial history are conducted by social workers before a family is approved to adopt a child. The problem is that many of the people adopting independently do not follow these laws, and therefore put the entire adoption in jeopardy. For this reason, identified adoptions are illegal in some states. For state-specific information regarding your local adoption laws, call Adoptions With Love today.

In some cases, “facilitators” will advertise their services to assist in these sort of identified arrangements. These facilitators could be compared to online dating services. For a seemingly small fee, they will connect expectant/birth parents with potential adoptive families and—that is it. They do not offer further counseling or emotional support for any of the parties involved in the adoption. They will not be there for you in the future, should you have questions or need to talk to someone.

Adoption is a life-changing decision. As an expectant mother, you should be fully informed of all your options, and all non-biased details of the adoption process so that you can make the best decision for you and your baby. Waiting families or online facilitators may try to pressure you into a quick decision, while a reputable, experienced private adoption agency will offer you guidance and support all the way through the adoption process. With Adoptions With Love, there is time to make a decision, every part of the process will be legal, and the choice will be yours.

At Adoptions With Love, your wishes will always be a priority. Our goal is to find the best family for your baby, and to make your perfect adoption plan come to life. Call 1-800-722-7731 or text us confidentially at 1-617-777-0072 to get started today.

Questions to Ask when Choosing an Adoptive Family

If you are an expectant mother and have decided to courageously make an adoption plan, you likely carry an image of the ideal home and family for your baby.

There are numerous questions to ask yourself to help you form this vision. What does that family look like? Will your child have siblings or pets, two parents or one? Where does the family live? Will your child to college? Is a certain religion important to you? Do you want a stay at home parent? Do you, the expectant mother, have an ongoing relationship with the family?

Making an open adoption plan for your baby will allow you the opportunity to give your child all of the things that you wish for him or her.  Today, you can choose the adoptive parents for your child. At Adoptions With Love, we can help you determine exactly what you are looking for in a family. Our adoption professionals can help you to find the family that is the best fit for you and your baby. If you would like, you can meet the adoptive family in person. For many expectant parents, meeting a prospective family completes their mental picture of their child and his or her future. It gives them reassurance and comfort to see, hear, and understand exactly what these prospective parents have to offer. It helps to form trusting relationship.

Each of the waiting families at Adoptions With Love has created an “Adoptive Parent Profile” so that you can get to know who they are and why they have chosen to build their family through adoption. They include letters and pictures for expectant parents like you to read and review. You can see how they live, what they look like, what their hobbies and interests are. While these adoptive profiles are very extensive, phone calls or face-to-face meetings can be even more helpful. Hearing what adoptive parents have to say when asked specific questions, and seeing how they react to these questions, can often be the most telling of all. By meeting a prospective family, you can put a voice to what you have seen in their profile books. You can establish a relationship built on understanding and trust. You can connect with one another, and truly feel secure in your decision.

Adoptions With Love can help you prepare for this decision and the meeting process. You can meet an adoptive family in person, or, if you feel more comfortable, through a phone conversation or internet skype session. It is normal to feel nervous about this next step. Finding the perfect adoptive family for your baby is a very important decision because you also want to make sure they are the right fit for you. To ensure that a family shares the same desires as you for your baby’s future, you want to make sure you ask all of the questions you are interested in knowing:

  • Why did you choose adoption as a way to grow your family?
  • What kind of adoption plan do you desire—open, closed, or something in between?
  • What kind of contact we will have following the placement of this child? (Through letters, pictures, emails, visits, phone calls, etc.?)
  • Do you have other children, or plan to have any more?
  • How long have you been married? (Or, why have you chosen single parenting?)
  • What makes your marriage work?
  • What are your daily schedules like? Will there be a stay at home parent?
  • Why do you feel as though you would make good parents?
  • What are your parenting philosophies? How will you discipline this child?
  • What are you goals for the future, and for the future of my baby?
  • Do you have a college savings plan enacted for him or her?
  • Are you involved with your community? How so?
  • How do you celebrate the holidays?
  • Do you have a large extended family? Are they supportive of this adoption?
  • How will you explain the adoption to this child?
  • How will you refer to me, the birth mother, when speaking to him or her?

As an expectant mother choosing an adoption, you are putting your child’s needs first which is a very brave, unselfish act. Yet you are also giving your child the gift of life, happiness, and support. By using your head, your heart, and asking all of the right questions, you will lovingly choose an adoptive family that will endlessly care, nurture, and provide for your child. Adoptions With Love is working with many waiting families looking to parent. One may be the right one for you. Contact us or call us today to get started at 1-800-722-7731 or text us confidentially at 1-617-777-0072.

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Researching and Finding the “Right” Adoptive Family

If you have decided that choosing an adoptive family for your baby is going to be a positive part of your plan, your next step is to carefully consider what you are looking for in a family. Now it is time to do some deeper research. Finding the perfect family for your child can take time, and for some, it can be an overwhelming process. There are hundreds of waiting families out there that want to become parents, and only a handful will be right for you and your child. How will you know you have made the best possible choice?

As a professional adoption agency that has been helping families grow for over 29 years, we have heard that the majority of expectant parents choosing a family have a moment where they just know when they have found the right family to raise their baby. They find a connection, or get a feeling, that confirms just how positive adoption can be. It is this connection that helps expectant/birth parents and adoptive parents establish a beautiful relationship. That relationship can evolve more with time, stemming from a pre-birth bond, and the unconditional love for a child, to a lifetime of comfort, trust, and opportunity.

In order to find the perfect family for your baby you will first need to explore all of your options. Adoptions With Love can help. Once you have carefully considered what you value most in a home, we can better understand exactly what you are looking for, and find the families that best match your desires. You can give your child the home you have always dreamed of, because you have a say in what type of family you wish him or her. This is your child, and this is ultimately your decision. Only you know what path will be right for you and your baby, but we can help by presenting you with adoptive families that are already screened and approved.

If you decide to make an adoption plan with Adoptions With Love, you will work with our team of professionals to determine exactly what you expect from an adoptive family. Once we understand just what type of family you want for your baby, we will send you a personalized selection of profiles from adoptive families that best match your desires, your needs, and your adoption plan. We believe these “Adoptive Family Profiles” are a very special way of initially meeting each waiting family. In each profile is a very personal message from each prospective parent—a message that is for you to read, to understand, and with which you can identify.  As a part of their profile book, hopeful families write letters to you expressing their dreams of parenting, their family history, their values, philosophies, interests, and more. Prospective parents also enclose photographs of their home, neighborhood, their extended family, and even their holiday celebrations or snapshots from family vacations.  These are included so that you can better understand who they are, where they come from, and the life your child will have with them.

At your request, we will send these “Adoptive Family Profiles” in the mail. You will be able to hold each book, each picture, and take time to read through the letters to “get to know” these families. This can be a very intimate experience. Through these profiles, you can determine what type of family feels best for your baby.

After some research, you may feel ready to make take the next step in choosing an adoptive family. If you are interested in talking with the prospective family you choose or wish to meet them in person, Adoptions With Love can make arrangements. If you wish, you can meet the family prior to birth of your child. They will come to you, wherever you are. We can also arrange a phone meeting, if you prefer. At Adoptions With Love, we always follow your comfort level. Even if you decide that you do not want to meet a family in person, we can arrange your plan accordingly. We are here for you.

While you do not have to meet the family, many expectant parents do feel comforted in putting a voice or face to what they have seen in profile books. It can be reassuring to see that your gift of an adoptive family is truly a wonderful reality after all. You are making a brave and selfless decision by choosing a family for your baby, and meeting this adoptive family in person can validate your choice.

For more information on choosing an adoptive family, download our guide at the link below. You can also visit our page of prospective families to get started, or contact Adoptions With Love at 1-800-722-7731 to begin your search for the perfect adoptive parents for your baby.

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Adoption is a Positive Choice

You have many options when facing an unplanned pregnancy and only one choice will be right for you. At Adoptions With Love, we will respect any decision you make. If you are currently pregnant and considering the positive option of adoption, know that you can design an adoption plan that works for you. There is no “one-size-fits-all” adoption. Your plan will be completely unique to you.

Choosing adoption does not only mean choosing a home for your baby. If you wish, you can plan for some future contact with the adoptive family that you choose.  For this reason, many expectant parents find adoption to be the best possible choice for their child. It is a choice made with the deepest love, understanding, and hopes for a child and for the future.

Adoption benefits everyone who is touched by it. Studies have shown that mothers who lovingly place their child for adoption go on to live a very fulfilling life. In comparison to single mothers who decide to parent their child, those who place are more likely to finish school, and have higher educational aspirations. They are also less likely to divorce in the future, and have another single-parent pregnancy. Contrary to what people believe, women that make an adoption plan  are not any more likely to experience negative psychological consequences, such as depression, than are mothers who have children as single parents.

Similarly, adoptive parents often find their “happily-ever-after” following placement. Nearly all of the parents who adopted children through a private, domestic agency describe their adoption experience as better than ever expected, and one of the best decisions of their lives. Adoptive parents, because of the fulfillment of a child, go on to maintain a healthy, loving relationship.

Adopted children also have enriching experiences in their families. Over 90 percent of adopted children ages 5 and older have positive feelings about their adoption. Well over half of all adopted children eat dinner with their families at least six days per week. They are more likely to be read to every day as young children, sung to or told stories every day, and to participate in extracurricular activities as school-age children.

It is normal for you, as an expectant parent, to worry about how your child will cope as he or she grows older and begins to understand the reality of adoption. You may not want your child to be angry with you, hurt by the situation, or feel alone. The fact is adoption has evolved quite a bit over recent years. Many children have peers that are also adopted. Adoptions are no longer secret, and children grow up knowing about their birthparents and have their questions answered. In fact, 99 percent of children today know that they are adopted, and the vast majority of the adoptions today are open or at least semi-open.

By maintaining contact with your child, whether directly or through letters and pictures at Adoptions With Love, your child can grow up understanding your choice to place.  Placing your child for adoption is, above all, a selfless decision. Your child will be grateful for the opportunities that you have given him or her, the opportunities that, at one point, you were unable to provide.

Once you have decided that adoption is a positive choice for you and your baby, we can now begin developing your adoption plan.  An agency such as Adoptions With Love can help you design a plan most appropriated to your wants and needs as an expectant mother. You can choose the adoptive family, as well as the amount of contact you want with them before the baby’s birth and following the placement. You make a hospital plan so that you can have control over your time in the hospital. Our team of adoption professionals will work closely beside you to ensure that you are comfortable with your adoption plan at each stage of your journey.

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