Archive for May, 2015

Adoptions With Love Celebrates Our 29th Anniversary!

ADOPTIONS WITH LOVE is celebrating its 29th anniversary this MAY! We are delighted to continue all the important work we do for all members on the adoption triad. We enjoy being engaged with you on our FACEBOOK / INSTAGRAM / TWITTER pages and sharing all the new families as well as our blog posts. We invite you to share your thoughts and we would even enjoy a “guest blog” from you. Should you decide to send us a “guest blog” please email it to : nrosenhaus@awlonline.org .

Over the past 29 years we have changed our adoption program to be more inclusive of the needs of adoptees. Many of our adoptees are in their late teens and twenties. Our search and reunion program is quite vibrant. We would like to add YOU to our data base with your own address, phone, email, etc. Please send us your current information to: info@awlonline.org and we will update our data base to include you.

We have also become more inclusive of the “MODERN family.”  We actively seek married couples, same sex families, and single parents to adopt with our agency. As the needs of our expectant/birthparents grow, so do our services. We are doing many more “open adoptions” that take many forms.

We always enjoy hearing about the children that we placed with their family. Recently we heard from a woman graduating from a Nurse Practitioner program, a college or high school graduation, a wedding. We love to be updated from the women we have worked with who entrusted their precious child to the family through Adoptions With Love. That is the beauty of OUR agency still remaining healthy and vibrant and still doing the good work in adoption. WE REMAIN HERE FOR YOU.

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The Benefits of Domestic Adoption

Our mission at Adoptions With Love is to find the best home for each child, with families that are full of unconditional love and support. If you are here looking to start a family, or to expand your family, we can help. One of the first steps in becoming an adoptive parent is deciding whether you are going to adopt a child domestically or internationally.

There are many orphans overseas who need a family that can provide a nurturing and healthy environment. There are also many babies born right here in the United States that need a loving, stable family. The goal of adoption (wherever it may take place) is to fulfill these needs.

When adoptive parents first consider adoption, it is critical that they understand the dynamics of both domestic and international adoption.  While each option has different characteristics, there are several benefits to domestic adoption that make it a wonderful choice for aspiring parents:

Simplicity and Shorter Wait Times

International adoptions today are more difficult than they were twenty years ago. In fact, the number of international adoptions has dropped more than 60 percent in the last decade. Some countries, such as Guatemala and Russia, have closed inter-country adoptions altogether. Others now have stricter requirements, or do not have as many children available for adoption.  Wait times for international adoptions are also often long. The process is often slowed by travel and paperwork. The wait time for the placement of a healthy infant in China is currently five years, while the average wait time to adopt domestically with Adoptions With Love is about 6 to 18 months. Adoptions With Love is also currently working with a record number of expectant parents.

Budget & Travel

It is also important to consider budget when deciding between international and domestic adoption. With domestic adoption, families can avoid the international travel costs associated with international adoptions.  Many foreign countries require that adoptive parents make several trips back and forth before final placement, so travel and visa costs often add up quickly. Many years after the adoption is finalized, adoptive families often travel back to the country so that their child can understand his or her roots.

Information & History

Your adopted child will want to know his or her history. International adoptions may come with a lack of information. Certain details of your child’s birth history might be missing or unavailable—his or her ethnicity, who the birthparents are, and the medical history of the birth family are examples of information that may be left incomplete or inaccurate. This is often a big concern for families who adopt internationally. The information that adoptive parents receive is often unfinished or sometimes unreliable. The health records, genetic background, history of disease in the family, and possible exposure to drugs and alcohol while in the womb, are details that might remain unknown.

Families who adopt domestically through a licensed agency are provided with the medical and social backgrounds of the child before the adoption is finalized. By working with a licensed adoption agency such as Adoptions With Love, the prospective adoptive family may have the opportunity to meet and get to know the expectant/birth parent(s) of their adopted child. They may have the opportunity to ask them questions, and to gain a deeper understanding of their child’s history.

Flexibility with Open and Closed Adoptions

Some families choose to adopt internationally because they desire a closed adoption. By adopting outside the country, they do not have to consider the role that birth parents will play in the child’s life. They would prefer not to maintain communication with the birth family.  This is perfectly fine, and the right choice for some families. While closed adoptions are available domestically, adopting in the U.S. also creates the opportunity to build a more open relationship with the expectant/birth parents.  Open adoptions can be customized so that the birth parents receive regular updates on the adopted child through letters, phone calls, texting, email, or even face-to-face meetings.

Commitment

Many prospective adoptive parents often choose international adoption because they also worry about the heartbreak associated with birthparents changing their minds during the adoption process. Talking to adoption professionals and counselors who are experts in your area can help ease the domestic adoption process. The professionals at Adoptions With Love, for example, can help you navigate this process and we have legal contracts that secure the commitment of birth parents once the consents to adoption are signed.   In some situations, expectant/birth parents do change their minds, and do not sign the consents to the adoption, and that is their right.  A caring and sensitive professional will help you to grieve this loss and move forward.

Adoptions With Love has been assisting prospective adoptive  parents build their loving families for over 29 years. We can help you start the adoption process today.  We work with expectant/birth parents nationwide, and we currently have a record number of expectant birth parents considering adoption plans. Call us today at 1-800-722-7731 for more information regarding domestic adoptions. Together we can start designing a plan that feels right for both you and your family.


Unplanned Pregnancy: Legal Considerations You May Face

Each year, hundreds of expectant parents find peace by placing their babies in loving, adoptive families. If you are currently facing an unplanned pregnancy and know you are not yet ready to parent a child, you may also want to consider the courageous choice of adoption.

Your first step will be in contacting adoption professionals to gather information and confirm that you are making an educated decision. At Adoptions With Love, we understand that the decision to place a child for adoption can be difficult. We also know that the adoption process can be overwhelming or confusing for expectant parents.  As an expectant parent, you maintain all rights to your baby and each decision made regarding your child. You will not have to make these decisions alone. Our team of compassionate counselors and knowledgeable lawyers will walk you through each of your options, guide you in making an informed decision, and support you in creating your own, unique plan moving forward.

If you work with our team at Adoptions With Love, you will be provided with an attorney (at no cost to you) who is specifically trained in the adoption laws of your state. You will also be able to speak one-on-one with a compassionate counselor, who will provide you with support and guidance each step of the way. Our team of professionals will be available to give you expert advice throughout your adoption journey and at any time of the day. Contacting our agency, or consulting with one of our adoption lawyers, does not mean that you are committed to making an adoption plan for your baby, either. Our priority at Adoptions With Love is only to answer your questions, ease your concerns, and ensure confidence in whichever choice you make next.

If you are considering adoption, keep in mind that adoption laws vary by state. You will need to speak with an expert who is specifically educated in your local adoption laws. Adoptions With Love can help. In order to place your child for adoption, all state statutes require that you, as an expectant parent, give consent to place your baby in a secure and loving home. This means that you agree to release all of your rights and responsibilities as the legal guardian of your child. You pass these duties along to the caring adoptive parents, who will accept them gratefully.

No matter where you are, you have plenty of time to make a decision about adoption. Your choice should never be rushed or made under pressure. The primary aim of adoption is to provide a stable, permanent home for your child. As a result, we want you to feel completely confident in your choice of making an adoption plan. Only you know what is best for your baby. However, consulting with adoption experts can provide you with the necessary knowledge and support needed when facing an unplanned pregnancy. With the right preparation, you will make the right decision.

For more information on how to deal with unplanned pregnancy, download our comprehensive guide here:

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If you would like to speak with an adoption professional about your feelings, your concerns, or to start your own adoption plan today, call Adoptions With Love toll-free at1-800-722-7731.

 


Financial Considerations of an Unplanned Pregnancy: The Cost of Raising a Child

*Updated February 2017

One of the most important things to consider when facing an unplanned pregnancy is whether or not you are ready to parent a child. If you are unsure, try asking yourself the following: Are you fully able to provide for a baby at this time? Are you financially stable enough to fulfill your own life goals, and those for your child? Will you be able to balance both a career and a baby?

Having a baby is not simply a moment in time. Parenting itself is a lifelong commitment, requiring at least 18 years of steady support. If you are considering parenting, it is important that you also prepare for the expenses that may arise while raising a child.

A middle-income family with a baby born in 2015 can expect to spend about $233,610 on that child up until the age of 18. This figure does not include any costs before the birth (prenatal care), or any expenses after his or her eighteenth birthday (like a college education). According to the USDA, these are the top costs parents can expect to spend when raising a child:

  • Housing: From rent to mortgage payments, utility bills to home furnishings, the expenses associated with housing a child account for an average of 30 percent of total child-rearing expenses.
  • Childcare & Education: Childcare tuition and primary education costs are some of the most costly expenditures for families today. 18 percent of child-rearing costs include expenses such as babysitting, daycare, elementary school, high school, and educational supplies. If you choose to parent, consider who will help you take care of your child. Daycare costs an average of $11,666 annually. If you work 40 hours per week, you can expect nearly $6 of your hourly pay to go to daycare costs.
  • Food & Formula: Many parents today struggle in providing their children with healthy meals that are also cost-effective. Food and baby formula can comprise up to 16 percent of total child-rearing expenses.
  • Clothing & Diapers: As babies get bigger, so will their need for new clothes and shoes. This is why it is so important to prepare yourself, especially for the first few years. Those are often some of the most expensive. On average, an infant will use 100 diapers a week. This means that diapers can cost up to $1,000 per year. While government assistance can occasionally cover food costs, diapers remain an out of pocket expense.
  • Health Care: Medical expenses can get costly when raising a child. As a parent, you will consistently need to pay for pediatric checkups, vaccinations, shots, insurance, and any medications following your child’s birth.

Parenting involves a great deal of savings and financial preparation. While the expenses above are the most significant, they still do not cover every single financial requirement of raising a child. As an expectant parent, you should also consider your means of transportation, the costs of personal care items (haircuts, toothbrushes), entertainment (computers, televisions, toys), and extracurricular activities (dance classes, music lessons, sports leagues, etc.).

Try to be honest in evaluating your life both now and in the future. If you decide that your current income is not enough to support a family, you are not alone. One of the most common reasons an expectant mother chooses not to parent is a result of financial instability. Child-rearing expenses only continue to grow, making parenting seem less of an option for women facing an unplanned pregnancy. Like you, each expectant mother still wants what is best for her baby. That is why many choose to place their children in adoptive homes, where financial security is ensured and opportunities are endless.

If you decide that adoption is right for you and your baby, financial assistance through an agency is available. At Adoptions With Love, we will assist you financially during your pregnancy and following the placement of your child. Hospital bills and the cost of delivery can add up quickly. We can help with any medical expenses that are not covered by insurance. We will also assist with maternity related expenses such as:

  • Rent/mortgage
  • Food
  • Transportation
  • Electricity, air conditioning, and other utilities
  • Maternity clothing
  • Medical bills
  • General living expenses

Do not be afraid to ask us for help. We will work hard to assure all of your needs are met, and to provide you with constant, stable support throughout your journey.

For more information on how to deal with unplanned pregnancy, download our comprehensive guide here:

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If you would like to speak with an adoption professional about your feelings, your concerns, or to start your own adoption plan today, call Adoptions With Love toll-free at1-800-722-7731.

 


A Father’s Role in an Unplanned Pregnancy

There is a common misunderstanding the expectant fathers do not want to be a part of the adoption journey. We rarely hear about the father’s role in unexpected pregnancies, or his place within adoption stories. It becomes easy to assume that he does not care enough to make a plan for his child. Yet this is not always the case. In fact, 80 percent of the birthfathers at Adoptions With Love participated in the adoption plan for their baby.

You can create a successful plan for your child, and engaging the biological father in this process can truly bring about a positive experience. As an expectant mother considering her options, you deserve incredible love and support. The father’s support can often be very meaningful.  Making a decision to parent or make an adoption plan will be difficult and emotional for him, also. Whatever path you choose will be a life-changing experience for the both of you and you can walk this path together.

Every pregnancy is unique, and yours will be exceptional whether or not the father is involved. You may or may not have a relationship with him and you may not know of his current whereabouts. If you are in a situation where it is possible and safe to include the father in your unplanned pregnancy, consider being open with him about your thoughts and your decision. He can be a huge part of this process and he may want to walk this journey beside you.

If you currently have a good relationship with the expectant father, you can help each other to carefully consider each of your options. Talk about your feelings towards having a baby, and how each possible option may affect your lives. If you are considering adoption as a positive choice, Adoptions With Love will offer you both individual counseling and guide you through the process.  There are always options in adoption. You both can decide on how you want your adoption plan to unfold. If you would like, you can choose a loving, adoptive family for your child together. You can even choose what type of contact you have with the family following the birth of your baby.

Even if you and the biological father are no longer together, you can both still create an individualized adoption plan. As an expectant mother, you may choose to have a fully open adoption.  An open adoption will allow you to maintain ongoing contact with both the adoptive family and your child. As an expectant father, he may be more comfortable with receiving pictures and letters from the family and not have ongoing contact. You each can define your own relationships with your child and with the wonderful adoptive family that you choose.

If you do not have a relationship with the father, or feel intimidated in telling him the news, it is okay. You will never have to contact him directly. A licensed adoption agency can still reach him through an attorney and present him with his legal parental rights. The relinquishment of parental rights will vary by state, so it is important to contact adoption professionals who are experts in these state laws. Adoptions With Love has the legal counsel to properly handle the rights of an expectant father.

Regardless of your relationship with the father of your baby, our compassionate team of counselors will help you develop an adoption plan for your child. You will never have to go through this alone. We understand that choosing adoption is one of the most responsible, loving and courageous decisions you can make. It is a challenging and emotional experience. You and the expectant father of your child should be proud in knowing that you gave your baby the best opportunities in life that he or she deserves. I For more information on a father’s role and rights in an unplanned pregnancy, find our extensive guide here:

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If you would like to speak with an adoption professional about your feelings, your concerns, or to start your own adoption plan today, call Adoptions With Love toll-free at 1-800-722-7731.